Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry...you just don't know if anyone's vaxed or not. THAT is the reality. You can't question anyone on this and if you seriously do you have issues and still don't know if the person you are asking is even telling you the truth. If your child has immune problems of course you must be careful and keep them away from kids who have any kind of symptoms. But that's all you can do. Anything else is just you believing you are doing something more.

Anonymous wrote:What if a family delays and selectively vaccinates? Would you still shun them then?

We delay and selectively vaccinate. DH is a doctor (MD) and we don't believe in a one size fits all approach to vaccinations. We read all the research and had discussions with the pediatrician, who agreed with us and was fine with an alternative vaccine schedule. We did some vaccines on time but skipped others and delayed some. Our child did have a significant but short duration reaction to one vaccine even with spacing them out. We will have all vaxes that are required for school done by school age as required by the state.

Anonymous wrote:My kid is through the first two years, is not immunocompromised, and is fully vaccinated, so I wouldn't stress about it, but frankly, I'm not going to associate closely with people who don't vaccinate by choice. It's a bit like being a climate change denier or a creationist--it's a signal to me that our values are not in alignment, and frankly, that you're not very smart. In the case of not vaccinating, it tells me that you don't understand the scientific evidence and/or you don't give a shit about other people; either way, it doesn't speak well of you and I don't really want to be your friend. (Obviously does not apply to people who don't vaccinate for real medical reasons.)