OP- By asking your DH to apologize for hurting you with that comment, you are treating him like a child. Your DH is not a jerk, he's an exhausted kind man. Give him some space and relax.

I feel like this was such a mean thing to say

Omg Op, cut your husband some slack. Fine that he said it. People say things.
First of all you shouldn't even consider it a serious comment until things settle down.
Maybe in 6-8 months, you two could have a calm, thoughtful discussion about options.

I have suggestions for one: no one "needs' to be picked-up at the airport.
You are probably expecting 50% more effort on everyone's part than is reasonable.
Therefore, the stuff that should roll off your back, isn't.

OP, I wish I had a family like yours, helping me around when I'm pregnant.

"Jerk" is not how I'd describe your DH. It's how I'd describe you. He sounds like a saint whose DW doesn't appreciate the burden he carried while YOUR family was visiting. All that cooking and cleaning while you kicked back gestating? He really stepped up. Not complaining about your family, making them feel comfortable while they were there? Absolute sweetheart. Expressing not wanting to do it again next year (perhaps with some emotion) after you recount your family's mishaps? Understandable. He's under-appreciated.

As a neat freak myself, I may be prejudiced in my response. Lol.

Perhaps your husband was just in the moment frustrated + stated that because of his exasperation at everything. Like you said, he probably didn't mean it at the time.

I know that I could see myself saying the same thing if guests ruined a few of my things. As I stated, I am a neat freak and it is very stressful having people in my space. I always worry they will make a mess or worse (!), ruin something of mine. So I can see your husband's point of view on this.

Anyway, I am quite sure when time goes by and he gets over the damage they caused, he will sing a different tune.

Don't worry.