Anonymous wrote:Maybe we should trade parents. My mom is mad at me because I actually won't let her get me anything. I'm self sufficient enough to buy all the things I need so no need to have her buy something I don't. Maybe take a lesson in humility op.

Old age slowly wears us down, it saps our strength, strains our mind, and dulls our senses. It is painful to feel oneself slip away, to watch people's eyes gloss over you on the street, because you don't matter any more, or have in fact become a burden. We all have a craving to be needed and liked. While we can rationalize being cast aside by strangers, but it is torture to become irrelevant to family.

So regardless of whether you can provide for yourself, you should convey to your mom that she is needed and appreciated. If that means you let her buy you a gift, big or small, that's what you need to do.

Stop talking to them and don't let them see the grandkids until they fork over that Christmas money! That'll show 'em!

They gave you life, raised you and gave you an education. You can make your own way in the world now.

- Warren Buffet

Maybe we should trade parents. My mom is mad at me because I actually won't let her get me anything. I'm self sufficient enough to buy all the things I need so no need to have her buy something I don't. Maybe take a lesson in humility op.

Since you are obviously a troll, I don't feel bad saying:

WAHHHHHHHH. Welcome to adulthood for 99.9 percent of the world, you spoiled and oblivious moron.

Meh, I'd be a bit upset yea. Not because I want a plasma but because getting me NOTHING is kind of like saying "fuck you". Buy me a shirt at target, I don't care, but take the time to do something.

Are the people "parenting in the 1%" listening? This is your future.

Is this Tori Spelling?

Anonymous wrote:My parents have $$$ and always do this...my whole life has been one prolonged exercise in "independence". I am independent and successful in my own right now

. yes, this. although I was fairly annoyed with my in laws who got their only grandchild one toy last year - that I bought and had shipped - and then complained that the gifts I got for them weren't right. DW and I got nothing from them. I don't need the gifts, but I don't need the complaints, either.

My parents have $$$ and always do this...my whole life has been one prolonged exercise in "independence". I am independent and successful in my own right now - seems like meanness at this point. There is nothing I particularly want other than the idea that maybe they give a damn.

boo hoo.

I don't think adults need to give presents to other adults. Gifts are for kids.

OP are you giving them presents? I would - I would do food gifts that you can all share and enjoy together just pass over the rest. It sounds like they want to move in a less materialistic direction and are perhaps not handling it in the most diplomatic way. If you do something you can share, like food and perhaps a board game, you set a good tone.

It depends. How old are you? 15 or younger, yes, I would be upset. 16 or older, of course not.

Oh noes. The precious snowflake is upset. Gifts should never be expected of someone no matter how much money they have.