Anonymous wrote:Since it is her house, you should say nothing to her and communicate to the kids that they should excuse themselves and go into another room while she is breastfeeding.

+1. Since SIL doesn't have this level of maturity, let's hope the young boys can rise to it.

Anonymous wrote:OP if this is a problem, then I hope your boys don't go anywhere that they might see a woman in a bikini until they are out of their teen years. Especially not girls around their own age, some of whom actually want to be noticed.

Maybe you should lock them up until they get through these awkward years. There are breasts everywhere, and a lot of them won't be very well covered.

Don't let them go to their aunt's house. Tell them you're worried about what they might see/think. See what their reaction is.

It's a very different thing to have young boys at the beach, walking by big-busted girls in tight bikinis -- most of whom they don't know and are just "seeing" -- and being in the home of someone they do know very well (their aunt), who is splaying the girls out for a period of time, while feeding an infant.

Since it is her house, you should say nothing to her and communicate to the kids that they should excuse themselves and go into another room while she is breastfeeding.

Anonymous wrote:It is just very inappropriate.

Teach your kids to give her privacy when she is nursing, as you do not want them to be exposed to that. Tell them that even if she does not mind, they are to leave the room.

Yes, God forbid your kids be exposed to THAT. Oh, the horror.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

As the mom of two boys about this age, I totally agree. It's her house, of course, but she could show a little more respect to her guests (any guests) and go into a different room. I wouldn't necessarily want to sit there and watch it either, completely uncovered, if I was at her house.

Why isn't it up to the boys to show respect, or amend their gaze/behavior/etc?Why is everything always up to a woman to change? And people wonder why some boys grow up with a sense of entitlement concerning women - because they teach their boys that the onus is on a woman to change (when she's doing absolutely nothing wrong), EVEN IN HER OWN HOME.

Um, because they are about ten years old and she is supposedly an adult?

It is just very inappropriate.

Teach your kids to give her privacy when she is nursing, as you do not want them to be exposed to that. Tell them that even if she does not mind, they are to leave the room.

OP if this is a problem, then I hope your boys don't go anywhere that they might see a woman in a bikini until they are out of their teen years. Especially not girls around their own age, some of whom actually want to be noticed.

Maybe you should lock them up until they get through these awkward years. There are breasts everywhere, and a lot of them won't be very well covered.

Don't let them go to their aunt's house. Tell them you're worried about what they might see/think. See what their reaction is.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

+1000 It is inappropriate. At that age it is probably considered to be more sexual than maternal.

This exactly. The two in the room are children themselves, and children at an age when sexual feelings they don't yet know how to control may be in overdrive. They aren't sitting there rationally thinking, "Oh! What an interesting thing to discover, auntie's boobs are feeding stations. I feel so edified from my visit." What they're thinking is, "naked boobs."

And, newsflash, breasts ARE SEXUAL. Yes they have another purpose as well, but unless you've never let and encouraged a partner to touch your breasts because it felt good and excited you sexually, shush.

You can't tell her to cover up. She is in her own home.

Your sons are definitely masturbating to her. Boys will masturbate to underwear advertisements in Redbook. This is normal.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

+1000 It is inappropriate. At that age it is probably considered to be more sexual than maternal.

She's in her OWN HOUSE. Have the ignoramuses here glossed over that fact?

Well, I poop, pee, shower, and change tampons in my OWN HOUSE too, but not in front of guests.

So those things are on the same plane as feeding an infant? Okay, sure. She should just go into the bathroom, for god's sake.

OP, you should wear a burka, so as not to tempt males with your evil female sexual powers.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

+1000 It is inappropriate. At that age it is probably considered to be more sexual than maternal.

She's in her OWN HOUSE. Have the ignoramuses here glossed over that fact?

Well, I poop, pee, shower, and change tampons in my OWN HOUSE too, but not in front of guests.

Presumably you always eat in private too, and feed your kids in isolation, yes?

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Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

As the mom of two boys about this age, I totally agree. It's her house, of course, but she could show a little more respect to her guests (any guests) and go into a different room. I wouldn't necessarily want to sit there and watch it either, completely uncovered, if I was at her house.

Why isn't it up to the boys to show respect, or amend their gaze/behavior/etc?

Why is everything always up to a woman to change? And people wonder why some boys grow up with a sense of entitlement concerning women - because they teach their boys that the onus is on a woman to change (when she's doing absolutely nothing wrong), EVEN IN HER OWN HOME.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

+1000 It is inappropriate. At that age it is probably considered to be more sexual than maternal.

She's in her OWN HOUSE. Have the ignoramuses here glossed over that fact?

Well, I poop, pee, shower, and change tampons in my OWN HOUSE too, but not in front of guests.

Anonymous wrote:I agree w/ a PP. Not appropriate in front of pre- teen and teen boys WITHOUT a coverup. Nobody is asking her to "starve her kids" here .... Just be respectful if pubescent boys .

As the mom of two boys about this age, I totally agree. It's her house, of course, but she could show a little more respect to her guests (any guests) and go into a different room. I wouldn't necessarily want to sit there and watch it either, completely uncovered, if I was at her house.