Anonymous wrote:If you always knew you wanted a family and kids how did you find a husband who felt the same? While I have a great career, I really value family and have struggled to find a man that feels the same way. Any suggestions?

Run as fast as you can away from DC! They are few and far between here.

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Anonymous wrote:I married a man from India. He is very family oriented and a good provider.

And I married an Egyptian. I didn't set out for that to happen. But it's been the perfect mix for us.

Another person who married an Indian man. Notable was the fact that he had lots of friends with kids, and his the guy friends were for the most part very involved dads. Changed diapers, put the babies to bed, etc.

I met him in a bar.

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Anonymous wrote:You attract people like yourself to you.

Is that why divorce rate so high?

Yes. Most people in the world shouldn't marry and procreate.

Anonymous wrote:Close to his family.

Everybody Loves Raymond

Anonymous wrote:(Not that there aren't assholes at church. Just that the men there will tend to be family minded.)

Yes, if you turn a blind eye to perverts, cheats and murderers who goes to church or converts in prison...

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Anonymous wrote:Mine comes from a large family that still does everything together as much as possible.
(Right now he is making a birthday card to send to Sunny side up show for his son's 1st birthday).

+ I could tell mine was family oriented by how he interacted with his own family. Very involved and close. He likes to hang out with his guy friends and go out to bars, so those aren't mutually exclusive.

+1 to the second pp. this is my husband exactly. Loves his entire family deeply but his friends, as well. I'm sure there are great fathers out there who didn't have a strong male role model, but it certainly helps. So much of parenting is instinctual that it really helps to marry someone who has a great relationship with his parents and thinks they did a great job.

I always looked for how they treat others. How does he treat the waitress at dinner, his mom, does he hold the door for the woman with the stroller, is he an ass to the teenager working the drive thru at mcdonalds? I feel Like it's the little things. Some of my friends have husbands who aren't kind, that's the only way to describe it. It always seems like those are the ones who have to be instructed to care for the kids and the wives are picking up their slack. Just an observation

My husband isn't close with his siblings but he's a great dad nonetheless. I stopped working at biglaw which not only gave me time to date but also allowed me to meet more people who prioritized family time over Audis.

We met online, where we had both put in that orientation for ourselves and that we were looking for the same. After we dated for a while, it was discussed a great deal.

Close to his family.

Close to his own extended family. Not just parents and sibs, but aunts, cousins, etc. Interestingly, there is only 1 divorce in my husbands entire extended family (both sides) and it was *scandalous*.

There is a downside, in that he's a little at their beck and call, but he takes excellent care of our little family, financially and otherwise. Very different from my own dad. My daughters hit the dad jackpot.

He was much older and ready for kids.

(Not that there aren't assholes at church. Just that the men there will tend to be family minded.)

Met him at church. This is pretty much the foolproof way.