Anonymous
11/12/2014 15:20
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
A baby monitor with a talk back feature would be good. Keep it pointed towards a usual snooped location, and then when you see someone look in, talk into the speaker and ask if you can help them with anything.
But OP, it sounds like your inlaws are looking to antagonize you. In that case, I would just lock what you can and ignore it. Or instead of embarrassing things, just put really random things in, like cans of beans in your underwear drawer. So you're kind of calling them out on it, but making a joke of it instead of escalating it.
But OP, it sounds like your inlaws are looking to antagonize you. In that case, I would just lock what you can and ignore it. Or instead of embarrassing things, just put really random things in, like cans of beans in your underwear drawer. So you're kind of calling them out on it, but making a joke of it instead of escalating it.
Anonymous
11/12/2014 14:59
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Anonymous wrote:How about signs you post that say things like, "mil, what are you looking for?" "Why are you in my medicine cabinet?"
I would do this!
Anonymous
11/12/2014 14:48
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I come from a super nosy family. My mom would think nothing of going through my drawers. They're my parents so I'm not upset about it.
Before they come I have a list of things to hide such as sex toys, birth control, lingerie.
I was raised in an open household like this and don't think much about the lack of privacy. My mom always told me that no way was she going to raise a unibomber/ school shooter under her roof and not know about it.
I have no issue with my mom going into my room if she needs to get a qtip or something...but the way these posters are describing it, these MILs think entering the bedroom with the sole purpose to simply look through stuff is ok. You would really be ok with your mom going through your drawers just to take a look?
+1
"I just HAVE to see this closet!" Um, no you don't, you loser.
Anonymous
11/12/2014 14:39
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Let her find a picture of herself with a giant X through the face.
Anonymous
11/12/2014 12:39
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Anonymous wrote:I come from a super nosy family. My mom would think nothing of going through my drawers. They're my parents so I'm not upset about it.
Before they come I have a list of things to hide such as sex toys, birth control, lingerie.
I was raised in an open household like this and don't think much about the lack of privacy. My mom always told me that no way was she going to raise a unibomber/ school shooter under her roof and not know about it.
I have no issue with my mom going into my room if she needs to get a qtip or something...but the way these posters are describing it, these MILs think entering the bedroom with the sole purpose to simply look through stuff is ok. You would really be ok with your mom going through your drawers just to take a look?
Anonymous
11/12/2014 12:36
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
I come from a super nosy family. My mom would think nothing of going through my drawers. They're my parents so I'm not upset about it.
Before they come I have a list of things to hide such as sex toys, birth control, lingerie.
I was raised in an open household like this and don't think much about the lack of privacy. My mom always told me that no way was she going to raise a unibomber/ school shooter under her roof and not know about it.
Before they come I have a list of things to hide such as sex toys, birth control, lingerie.
I was raised in an open household like this and don't think much about the lack of privacy. My mom always told me that no way was she going to raise a unibomber/ school shooter under her roof and not know about it.
Anonymous
11/12/2014 12:32
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:We put locks on the bedroom doors and locked them when we're having family over. I don't know WHY my MIL insists on looking for sex toys in my room, but she tried. We actually had this conversation a few years ago, right after DH and I installed the locks:
MIL: I couldn't get into your room.
Me: Yes.
MIL: The door is locked.
Me: That's right.
MIL: Why would you do that?
Me: Because nosy relatives came over and thought there was nothing wrong with going through our drawers and closets for some strange reason.
MIL: But what if I need something?
Me: Then you can let Scott or me know and we'll get it for you.
MIL: I need something.
Me: Okay, what?
MIL: ....
This is amazing. Love it!
I wish you had this on video so I could see this person's face. They HONESTLY think they should be able to get into your bedroom????
Anonymous
11/12/2014 12:27
Subject: Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
Anonymous wrote:NP here. WOW. Who are these people who think it's ok to rummage through people's closets!!!!
I must know what they are thinking. Do they think this is normal? Do they go through the closets of their friends?
OP here. I agree completely. They get off on the shock value of their behaviors. Think bullies, but old and should know to ratchet down their awfulness, but refuse to. They see a target! It's awful. DH won't say anything, and I am always in shock, literally - even though nothing should surprise me anymore. I was not raised that way. I was raised to be gracious and respectful in other people's houses - not opportunistic! What's next, stealing the candlesticks?!
Anonymous
11/12/2014 11:13
Subject: Re:Here come the holidays! And the nosy ILs!
You could hang cow bells on the doors- or arrange it so a fog horn goes off when opened (in addition to the marbles). Set up cameras to watch the expressions. Sit back, have a glass of wine, and let the games begin.