Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 19:12     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My MIL did a huge gallery wall with family photos in her study. She brought me in there to show me and announced " these are all the people that I love ".
Guess who was NOT anywhere on the wall


Did she have any pictures of her other daughter or son in-laws?


Yes she did. I told my husband and we had a good laugh about it actually. Its so ridiculous all these years (12) that there is nothing to do but laugh
and point dramatically with big sweeping motions at any gallery walls, store displays and announce " these are the mannequins I love"
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 15:55     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...


Is she Chinese? I have a colleague who is Chinese and kept telling me during my pregnancy and breastfeeding days that I needed to eat pork bone soup.



No, she is not Chinese. She is white...

To add to the mix.. she still calls DH "baby" and now our son is been called "baby" too.


Mine started doing the baby thing to my DH after our son was born. She also started calling DH and DS "two little boys", so to her our family consists of two little boys and some extraneous grown up woman.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 15:48     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we stay with my MIL for a weekend visit and other grandchildren are there, she makes breakfast for only my SIL's kids... not mine.

Like, as in 3 bowls of oatmeal set aside with a buffet of add-ins and nothing for the other grandkids.

Say what?!?


Not PP, but this reminded me of a time when we were camping, while I was helping my husband on a project my MIL made burgers for everyone (including my husband) except for my young kids and me. Her excuse was she thought I would want to make my own burgers (because I had brought burgers we well). She had plenty of extra burgers that she could have thrown on the grill for us. My kids were so hungry. While waiting for my burgers to be cooked, they had to watch everyone else eat (including their dad who didn't even offer to give up his burger for his own kids!).

This is just one example of many other appalling stories ...


Are you still married to this man?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:52     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
MIL does an advent calendar book thing. not only do we take our LO to the library often and read to her every night, but I love to read. MIL asks in a very serious tone if we would be "willing to read to her at night" to do the advent calendar thing. wtf.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:44     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Every time my mother comes over she brings bags of things that are "helpful" to me. Like the Costco sized package of napkins, her own bowls because I might not have enough, and "nutritional" easy ramen noodle soup. Last time it was a giant package of raisins because maybe I need something to snack on. (I hate raisins)
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:42     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
I'll play! My MIL is here visiting now. I have a 2yr old and 6 week old. We see her twice a year. She has watched 24 episodes of Lost since getting here Thursday. she is alternating between watching it on her iPad and using the roku. She watched episode 1 on the flight in and last night put on episode 25 while she held the baby and I took care of the toddler.

DH was going to stay home from work today to spend the morning with her and she told him not to bother-she just wanted to 'watch her show'.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:32     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:When we stay with my MIL for a weekend visit and other grandchildren are there, she makes breakfast for only my SIL's kids... not mine.

Like, as in 3 bowls of oatmeal set aside with a buffet of add-ins and nothing for the other grandkids.

Say what?!?


Not PP, but this reminded me of a time when we were camping, while I was helping my husband on a project my MIL made burgers for everyone (including my husband) except for my young kids and me. Her excuse was she thought I would want to make my own burgers (because I had brought burgers we well). She had plenty of extra burgers that she could have thrown on the grill for us. My kids were so hungry. While waiting for my burgers to be cooked, they had to watch everyone else eat (including their dad who didn't even offer to give up his burger for his own kids!).

This is just one example of many other appalling stories ...
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:29     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...


Ham bones make great soup. We always keep ours to use for that. I don't think this is weird at all. And how can you not have time to throw something away if you don't want it, it takes 2 seconds. In the time it took you to write a post complaining about it, you could have chucked it in the trash.


I think the poster meant she didn't have time to do something with them, not that she didn't have time to throw them away.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 12:25     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...


Ham bones make great soup. We always keep ours to use for that. I don't think this is weird at all. And how can you not have time to throw something away if you don't want it, it takes 2 seconds. In the time it took you to write a post complaining about it, you could have chucked it in the trash.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 11:56     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Hoarding food is a big problem with both sets of parents. My mother has food that is DECADES old in her house. Their freezer is brimming with food that will never be eaten. My ILs will save every morsel and scrap that is left over after a meal. I still remember MIL saving the sauce from the bottom of a Chinese food container.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:51     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:My MIL did a huge gallery wall with family photos in her study. She brought me in there to show me and announced " these are all the people that I love ".
Guess who was NOT anywhere on the wall


Did she have any pictures of her other daughter or son in-laws?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:35     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...


Is she Chinese? I have a colleague who is Chinese and kept telling me during my pregnancy and breastfeeding days that I needed to eat pork bone soup.



No, she is not Chinese. She is white...

To add to the mix.. she still calls DH "baby" and now our son is been called "baby" too.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:31     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:My MIL did a huge gallery wall with family photos in her study. She brought me in there to show me and announced " these are all the people that I love ".
Guess who was NOT anywhere on the wall


Wow. That is awful - sounds like something a 4 year old would say. Did you tell your DH (or DW) about this comment?
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:28     Subject: Re:Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
Anonymous wrote:I still have a bag of frozen ham bones from her last visit in our freezer. She cooked ham for Christmas dinner. She thought it was a good idea to keep them so we could cook something with them..
(I know I should through them away.. ) but to my defense I am a FTM and work full time. This year has just been a big learning curve...


Is she Chinese? I have a colleague who is Chinese and kept telling me during my pregnancy and breastfeeding days that I needed to eat pork bone soup.
Anonymous
Post 11/18/2014 09:05     Subject: Share your story - Mother and MIL venting
My MIL did a huge gallery wall with family photos in her study. She brought me in there to show me and announced " these are all the people that I love ".
Guess who was NOT anywhere on the wall