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Anonymous wrote:As a military spouse, OP, I am certainly not gonna say all military men are crazy-- my DH is awesome.

BUT if you are interested in dating someone in the military, you do need to think very seriously about whether you are truly willing/able to stay in a relationship with someone who will inevitably be moving away in a year or two... maybe deploying.

You said that b/c you live in NOVA, "moving closer to a base is out." What would you do if you met your dream guy and one he says-- as he inevitably will -- "Honey, I just got orders to PCS to Fort Lewis/Fort Carson/Fort Hood/Afghanistan/Germany"?

If your answer is, "I'd have to say, 'see ya!'" then there's not much point pursuing such relationships. Unless you meet someone on the verge of getting out anyway, moves/deployments are an inherent part of military life.

+1000

- Another military spouse

+1,001 Navy wife

Anonymous wrote:As a military spouse, OP, I am certainly not gonna say all military men are crazy-- my DH is awesome.

BUT if you are interested in dating someone in the military, you do need to think very seriously about whether you are truly willing/able to stay in a relationship with someone who will inevitably be moving away in a year or two... maybe deploying.

You said that b/c you live in NOVA, "moving closer to a base is out." What would you do if you met your dream guy and one he says-- as he inevitably will -- "Honey, I just got orders to PCS to Fort Lewis/Fort Carson/Fort Hood/Afghanistan/Germany"?

If your answer is, "I'd have to say, 'see ya!'" then there's not much point pursuing such relationships. Unless you meet someone on the verge of getting out anyway, moves/deployments are an inherent part of military life.

+1000

- Another military spouse

Agree on search terms on Match and hanging out in locations near bases/Pentagon. Ask through friends. I feel like people in your circle here are bound to know military men due to the sheer volume that live in and around DC.

A lot of military guys in their 30s and 40s will be at the point their careers where they are looking to get out of the military or looking to stay in. It's tied, of course, to years in service and whether they will be promoted again. In my circle, a lot of guys who retire wind up staying in the DC area, so if you like military types but don't want to move, then the retiring set may be good for you. If you are OK with moving with or for someone you love, then you might prefer to date an active duty guy who plans to stay in.

Don't listen to the posters here who think military = scums who couldn't get into college or want to kill everything that moves. Sure, there are jerks in the military, but there are also jerks in medicine, sales, janitorial services, and everything else. Apply the same lens to considering potential suitors regardless of their occupation.

I have to second the pp above, My military guy is very confident in the sack and is all-around good to me. However I have to insist the life is hard and warrant careful consideration.

Love my military guy. He's the best dad and lover a girl could ask for.

As a military spouse, OP, I am certainly not gonna say all military men are crazy-- my DH is awesome.

BUT if you are interested in dating someone in the military, you do need to think very seriously about whether you are truly willing/able to stay in a relationship with someone who will inevitably be moving away in a year or two... maybe deploying.

You said that b/c you live in NOVA, "moving closer to a base is out." What would you do if you met your dream guy and one he says-- as he inevitably will -- "Honey, I just got orders to PCS to Fort Lewis/Fort Carson/Fort Hood/Afghanistan/Germany"?

If your answer is, "I'd have to say, 'see ya!'" then there's not much point pursuing such relationships. Unless you meet someone on the verge of getting out anyway, moves/deployments are an inherent part of military life.

OP, on Match you can add any keyword search term you want: try "army," "navy," "military," "armed services," etc. Not everyone in or retired from the military chooses to mention it on Match, of course, but you'll pop up at least some relevant profiles.

Anonymous wrote:What's an "NPD?"

NP here. NPD probably = narcissistic personality disorder

You need to hang out in bars where military dudes hang out after work or on weekends. I've seen tons of them in Sine at Pentagon Row. Union Street Pub in Old town is also good for older officer types. For younger guys, Murphy's in Old Town seems to attract a lot of them. There are probably bars near Belvoir too.

Anonymous wrote:Op here, thanks for the suggestions. I live in nova - moving closer to a base is out.

Can you just walk into the army navy club? Then what do you do, sit at the bar and hope for the best?

I went on match and favorited some guys. I guess at my age they're mostly out of the service. The thing is they're all into running and I have a health problem where I'm supposed to stay away from running or anything high impact. Hmm. They look so good in those uniforms though!

So you are old, fat and desperate? No one wants that.

I've dated a military guy. Hot, cocky, manly and highly educated. Best sex I ever had. I met him through friends though so I don't really have advice for OP.

I'll chime in from an outside perspective since I'm 1) a guy, and 2) Non-Military. My wife grew up in Virginia Beach, and while she moved away after high school, it was apparently pretty common knowledge that the military bases and surrounding houses were places to stay away from. I'm going to assume that this is based on the "overgrown children" aspect, among other things. For what it's worth, I know a number of military guys and count some of them as close friends; they're all good guys but are also older, have matured a bit, etc.

I can't really tell you how to pick one up, they aren't exactly my targets Running would not be a bad start but if you can't do that, I'd suggest walking, and if I had to give you a place, I'd suggest walking along the Arlington Memorial Bridge during morning commutes. My commute to work frequently takes me over that bridge, and there are tons of military guys from the Pentagon out there running in that general area. Go wink at a few of them, you never know.

Back in the day, military guys came on to me hanging out in Georgetown. They were young though.

I've had good and bad experiences with military men...just like all of my dating experiences. Many of my friends growing up in this area had parents who worked for the military. Many are still married and retired in this area. At the same time, I know lots of women who married men in the military and they've had all the same sorts of issues that the non-military spouses have had. Huge stereotypes. As a PP said, pre-screen your dates like you would anyone.

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone so anti military guys? I grew up in a small town that was dominated by a large marine base. I dated a few marines and they were a fun time, except for the pilot.

It has always been that way in our area. I married one anyway.

Anonymous wrote:Try a court ordered alcohol and anger management treatment program.

+1. Or maybe convert to Islam.