Anonymous
Post 11/04/2014 18:09     Subject: Re:Trying to stay neutral in nasty family divorce
I think there's as lot of sock puppeting going on. I think the PP had a good approach about focusing on the kids. The kids should be able to see their cousins regardless of who has custody. It's what we've done when friends have gone through ugly divorces. One friend, in particular, has a real asshole of an ex-husband. We're very close to her but have contact with him so our kids can get together/attend parties/etc. My friend understands this and has no problem with it.
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2014 15:24     Subject: Trying to stay neutral in nasty family divorce
Anonymous wrote:Meh, your kids don't miss their uncle like you think they do. Sorry, it's just not the same emotional attachment for kids to secondary family members that an adult might have. They might tell you they miss him a lot because they sense that you miss him or the family structure you once had but out of sight, out of mind and that's pretty much true even for kids of school age. It doesn't mean they can't remember hanging out with him and recalling it being fun.

If they really want to have a relationship with him, they can choose to do so when they are older or when things calm down more.
Hands down one of the dumbest posts I've ever read on here, and I've read a lot of posts. You really think kids just throw people away like that and then never wonder where they went, why they never see them anymore or if they'll get kicked out of the family for unknown reasons too?
Anonymous
Post 11/04/2014 14:51     Subject: Trying to stay neutral in nasty family divorce
I maintain contact with my ex sister in law specifically so the cousins get to spend time together. We do it on her time. Never been a problem.