You all at 3 weeks are kind of amazing. I bled until 6 weeks and didn't feel ready until 8. And then I only did it because I felt we should.

I also had a peak of hormones for the first week or so, but no PIV until I think 2 months. And until my period came back (maybe 8 months?) definitely had a lower sex drive than normal. It's hard to explain, but everything just feels a bit more muted, not to mention the exhaustion. With breastfeeding, you also might feel totally different about your breasts being stimulated as part of sex too.

In my opinion, sex drives are fairly constant, physiologically speaking, after the major hormonal changes have smoothed out. It's other factors, like exhaustion and marital stress, that really affect the sex life.

Anonymous wrote:PP here: I should add that watching my DH of 13 years with our new daughter was a huge turn on for me. He is so loving an attentive and an overall fantastic father, it made me want to jump him. That's partly why we didn't wait the 6 weeks.

Same for me (although we did wait, but it was tough).

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Anonymous wrote:Did you already deliver? I find most women who are anxious about this haven't had the baby yet.

You'll get lots of varying responses depending on the type of delivery, the type of tear, etc. For me we tried around 10 weeks but weren't successful until about four months. We did other things instead.

Interesting. I was so horny in the first couple weeks postpartum. Hormones, I assume. Anyway, we waited seven weeks because my year ended up needing an extra week to heal.

Should say "tear" obviously

Anonymous wrote:Did you already deliver? I find most women who are anxious about this haven't had the baby yet.

You'll get lots of varying responses depending on the type of delivery, the type of tear, etc. For me we tried around 10 weeks but weren't successful until about four months. We did other things instead.

Interesting. I was so horny in the first couple weeks postpartum. Hormones, I assume. Anyway, we waited seven weeks because my year ended up needing an extra week to heal.

I am not sure after a vaginal delivery, but after a C-section as soon as you feel ready since that area was not used during childbirth.

Just be extra careful around the incision since it needs to heal properly + can get infected easily.

About 3 weeks with both kids. Doctor said to wait until bleeding stopped and I'd know when I was ready. My sex drive never really declined. Sex was great for relieving stress, especially when we had a toddler and a newborn.

Assume you mean how long until PIV?
Couple weeks.
But bj's at any time right?

About 6 months. I had a normal delivery and minor tearing. For some strange reason, I had a high sex drive for the first week after giving birth but obviously was not in a position to have sex then. Afterwards, exhaustion and PPD got the best of me, and I didn't want to do it at all.

It hurt a little the first time but then not again afterwards, and I got my sex drive back quickly after the first time. I think I was scared.

about 4 I'm weeks. Vaginal birth with a little tearing. I'm the higher drive partner and I was ready!!

C section
5 months, still nothing

PP here: I should add that watching my DH of 13 years with our new daughter was a huge turn on for me. He is so loving an attentive and an overall fantastic father, it made me want to jump him. That's partly why we didn't wait the 6 weeks.

For some f'd up reason I was horny as heck post delivery/csection and so we DTD 3 weeks after surgery. It hurt like I never imagined but we did it anyway. And then did it again 1 week later.

Anonymous wrote:We only waited 2.5 weeks. Easy pregnancy and relatively easy delivery. For some odd reason I still have not lost my sex drive. DH was glad but I've been shocked. I hear so much about women losing their sex drive during pregnancy and post-birth. I wonder why I haven't.

Me again. To the pp, yes DH is great. Our LM is 5 months and he's been very involved. We had issues with nursing so I am EP'ing. DH took 4 weeks paternity leave and fed majority of the bottles. He is back and work and I work PT but he takes him immediately when he's home and handles the night routine 4 out of 7 days. He's a really great dad and him helping out leaves a lot more time to get stuff done and is free time.

6 weeks for intercourse because the doc told us to but we were giving each other hand jobs (and I was giving him blow jobs) within a couple of weeks. DC is now 6 and I confess my sex drive, which was always high, did not go down at all after the baby. But we sure had to find creative times and places for our fun