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Anonymous wrote:Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts!

C'mon, I am sure she's annoying, but she's not here to entertain you or help you around the house. She came to see her son. As long as she's not being a bitch to you, I'd say cut her some slack.

New poster- perhaps it's a cultural difference, but my mom in fact DOES think she should try to help me in some way around the house when she visits. She asks what she can stock my fridge with, or if there's anything needing an extra pair of hands.

She remembers what it's like to be a full time working young couple in an expensive city...she has no desire to just be a drain. She wants to add something helpful and of value to her trips besides just "visiting."

Yeah but I didn't ask my FIL to rearrange the garage and I didn't like him touching my stuff and mixing all my shit up. The time that he was in there I felt crazy and stressed. And then he said to me in a smug voice, " I don't know how long your car is but you should be able to park your car in there now". Did not ask him to ride to the rescue!! Where were you and MIL when DH and I needed ONE just ONE night out? How about some damn babysitting? EVER? Not once in 11 years, Jesus H Christ!! We don't want to sit around and visit with you every single damn night for 11 nights straight! We want to go out one of those nights!!

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Anonymous wrote:OMG once when my MIL was staying with us she rearranged the plates and glasses in our kitchen. And stood there beaming waiting for praise when we got home.

Mine rearranged the furniture -and a few pictures- while I was at work. This was the first yr we were married. I had a total meltdown. She still talks about it, and how inflexible I am.

Why don't you rearrange her furniture sometime just to show her how it feels? I bet she'll shut up after that.

Anonymous wrote:I would say I had to go into work. I even said this the day after Thanksgiving when it was a holiday for my office. Just leave the house.

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts!

C'mon, I am sure she's annoying, but she's not here to entertain you or help you around the house. She came to see her son. As long as she's not being a bitch to you, I'd say cut her some slack.

New poster- perhaps it's a cultural difference, but my mom in fact DOES think she should try to help me in some way around the house when she visits. She asks what she can stock my fridge with, or if there's anything needing an extra pair of hands.

She remembers what it's like to be a full time working young couple in an expensive city...she has no desire to just be a drain. She wants to add something helpful and of value to her trips besides just "visiting."

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Anonymous wrote:Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts!

C'mon, I am sure she's annoying, but she's not here to entertain you or help you around the house. She came to see her son. As long as she's not being a bitch to you, I'd say cut her some slack.

Agreed that she and fil are not here to entertain me or help out around house but they shouldn't create so much work.

I also don't think it's too much to ask to have some basic courtesy: clean up after yourself, don't ask your son and me to leave work to have lunch with you all, don't ask us to be Late to work to have breakfast with you all, maybe even offer to order takeout or pay for a meal once in a while?

Anonymous wrote:Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts!

C'mon, I am sure she's annoying, but she's not here to entertain you or help you around the house. She came to see her son. As long as she's not being a bitch to you, I'd say cut her some slack.

One of my inlaws painted a room without our consent/input. Who does that?

Op here- today was first day of visit. I opted to sit this one out. Talked to mil on phone to let her know id see her sometime tomorrow. She proceeded to talk for 5min about someone I've never met. And so the fun filled visit starts!

OP here- I am honestly shocked at all these rearranging, cleaning up, cleaning out stories. Like I said upthread, I've never seen my MIL lift a finger. She likes to point out all the imperfections from her chair, for someone else to take care of.

Once my MIL was SOOOO proud that she had emptied our dishwasher and put all the dishes away. Too bad they were still dirty.

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Anonymous wrote:OMG once when my MIL was staying with us she rearranged the plates and glasses in our kitchen. And stood there beaming waiting for praise when we got home.

Mine rearranged the furniture -and a few pictures- while I was at work. This was the first yr we were married. I had a total meltdown. She still talks about it, and how inflexible I am.

What did DH have to say about it?

My mil cleaned the crumbs from our toaster oven when we were at the hospital while our DS had surgery. I heard about it 4 times! Good grief, I said thanks already (as did my DH).

Anonymous wrote:OMG once when my MIL was staying with us she rearranged the plates and glasses in our kitchen. And stood there beaming waiting for praise when we got home.

Mine rearranged the furniture -and a few pictures- while I was at work. This was the first yr we were married. I had a total meltdown. She still talks about it, and how inflexible I am.

OMG once when my MIL was staying with us she rearranged the plates and glasses in our kitchen. And stood there beaming waiting for praise when we got home.

My FIL "cleaned" and "organized" our garage and I am infuriated. No one asked him to rummage around in there, we just moved this summer and had not made headway in there. But I knew where everything was and it was not that bad. Just some groups of boxes. But FIL was appalled that we weren't parking the car in there, lectured us about pine sap (duh). So he stacked up the boxes to create a space for the car. Then waited to be thanked and exclaimed over. I never said a word about it and I never will.