I get a text. Not a big deal, but it pisses me off that its all they can muster for their own son as well. While his sisters get treated to dinner yearly, and we're all expected to drop everything and be there.

Yes, always. MIL treats me like one of her own and calls me early in the morning on my b-day to sing "Happy Birthday" to me. She does this for all her kids and grandkids. They always send me a card and up until they retired and their income became less, they sent me a check for $100. My own mother forgot my birthday 2 years in a row, but never my ILs. They are lovely, wonderful people.

Yes, my and DH's parents both send thoughtful cards and gifts. My mom and my MIL are both very into gifts and commemorating occasions. Very nice of both of them, and we always reciprocate!

My FIL always acknowledges my birthday, which is really sweet. My MIL did the first year we were married and then just stopped. Our relationship has always been good. I do not hold it against her at all, nor should I.

DH's mom and grandmothers always send me birthday cards. My mom sends a card to my husband and my
Sister's husband.

ILs don't acknowledge my BD and I am fine with it.

The H insists I say HB to his parents when he calls even though the other 51 weeks of the year he does not call me to the phone when they talk. Sorry, correction, he expects me to say Happy Mother's Day and Happy Father's Day also. I have to admit I do offer hearty greetings even though they are for show in front of our children.

Because the H is an asshat, I don't want my mom subjected to him on special occasions. After 20 years she still does not appreciate that I try to spare her. He almost spits in the phone when hurling a HBD to her.

Nope, but it doesn't bug me.

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Anonymous wrote:I am previous poster who things its odd. Not bad, just odd. I guess it's because at this point in my life, if I want something that costs $50, I go get it. Same with my mom. Her giving me the $50 doesn't change my life at all. I wouldn't complain, I'd just rather she keep it for herself. We aren't big on bdays though. A phone call letting me know someone is thinking of me is great, and if people forget I understand because I don't remember everyone's either. I'm early 40's, bdays aren't a huge deal at this point.

Agree. Acknowledgement of birthdays is nice, but more than that is odd to me. Adults who make big deals out of their birthdays, weird me out. Really? You're 37, and you want a birthday party/gift? No, that's for kids.

Nope -- no it isn't. I understand not wanting do any celebration or not asking for gifts, but if someone else wants to celebrate their birthday or someone gives them a gift why is that odd? I think that it is odd that you think it is odd that someone wants to celebrate or acknowledge in a way that is different than your way.

Anonymous wrote:I am previous poster who things its odd. Not bad, just odd. I guess it's because at this point in my life, if I want something that costs $50, I go get it. Same with my mom. Her giving me the $50 doesn't change my life at all. I wouldn't complain, I'd just rather she keep it for herself. We aren't big on bdays though. A phone call letting me know someone is thinking of me is great, and if people forget I understand because I don't remember everyone's either. I'm early 40's, bdays aren't a huge deal at this point.

Agree. Acknowledgement of birthdays is nice, but more than that is odd to me. Adults who make big deals out of their birthdays, weird me out. Really? You're 37, and you want a birthday party/gift? No, that's for kids.

I am previous poster who things its odd. Not bad, just odd. I guess it's because at this point in my life, if I want something that costs $50, I go get it. Same with my mom. Her giving me the $50 doesn't change my life at all. I wouldn't complain, I'd just rather she keep it for herself. We aren't big on bdays though. A phone call letting me know someone is thinking of me is great, and if people forget I understand because I don't remember everyone's either. I'm early 40's, bdays aren't a huge deal at this point.

My inlaws always do something for my birthday. DH and I have birthday's one day apart so it is easy to remember. We always get a phone call and then whenever we are at their house closest to our birthdays MIL always buys an ice cream cake for us. That is my favorite She remindes her son that his wife and kids always bake him his favorite cake for his birthday so it is fair that she makes sure I get my favorite. I LOVE my MIL!!!

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Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who thinks its crazy for parents to give grown financially independent children (bio or inlaws) money for birthdays? Seems so weird to me!

Why?
You would rather someone buy you something you don't want when you could have just used the cash to buy/do/see what you really want?
People kill me with all of these asinine, made up rules about s*** that really doesn't matter.

Not pp, but I also agree it's weird. A card in the mail is nice, or phonecall. But more than that for a grownup, is weird.

Exactly, how does this qualify as weird -- how?????
Sending mice in the mail, pissing on a cottonball and sending it FEDEX IS weird.
How does momma sending you 50 bucks qualify as weird?

MIL always sent me a card on my birthday before she passed away. One BIL & SIL always send a card. Other SIL is a b*tch, so we pretty much ignore each other.

SIL does and keeps getting me shirts I don't need and I don't want.

Yes. I get a card with cash on my birthday every year.