People are selfish/self-centered by wearing sunglasses. They can pick up on every emotional clue re: the other person, but prevent the other person from doing the same.

When meeting someone new, it's unacceptable. When people are known to each other, it's fine.

If I were him - I wouldn't have liked it that you chose to wear your sunglasses. If I were him I would consider it a big strike against you, but I wouldn't have asked for you to take them off. It you didn't know that you shouldn't ahve worn them that says a lot about you.

Anonymous wrote:Here's another POV.

First blind date I met up with the guy on the sunny steps of a musuem, and I was wearing my sunglasses . Now I had been planning on taking them off, but kind of forgot because I was just a little nervous. We said hi, a few other niceties and then, he reached over gently, and lifted them off my face and said "that's better."

Normally would have freaked me out, but when our eyes met, sans sunglasses, there was a big ZING. our date went from early afternoon to late evening and we are now married with kids.

I guess you don't have prescription glasses. I would be pissed if someone took away my vision and I'm not wrecking my eyes more by sitting outside without glasses.

Anonymous wrote:Here's another POV.

First blind date I met up with the guy on the sunny steps of a musuem, and I was wearing my sunglasses . Now I had been planning on taking them off, but kind of forgot because I was just a little nervous. We said hi, a few other niceties and then, he reached over gently, and lifted them off my face and said "that's better."

Normally would have freaked me out, but when our eyes met, sans sunglasses, there was a big ZING. our date went from early afternoon to late evening and we are now married with kids.

LOVE this!

Here's another POV.

First blind date I met up with the guy on the sunny steps of a musuem, and I was wearing my sunglasses . Now I had been planning on taking them off, but kind of forgot because I was just a little nervous. We said hi, a few other niceties and then, he reached over gently, and lifted them off my face and said "that's better."

Normally would have freaked me out, but when our eyes met, sans sunglasses, there was a big ZING. our date went from early afternoon to late evening and we are now married with kids.

I would not have thought twice about wearing sunglasses while sitting outside in the sun. It is extremely uncomfortable for some people to sit with constant glare -myself included. If it was nice out, I would have enjoyed sitting outside. I don't avoid it, but I do wear sunglasses all the time in those situations. I have light eyes and the sun can be downright annoying. Always good to read here as it never occurred to me that people find this rude.

If it helps you OP, my current favorites are a light brown lens that you can see my eyes through. That would have solved the perceived rudeness problem. And in your defense, he saw you without them inside, when he arrived late.

He was explicitly rude to you. Who wants to be with someone who gets all bent out of shape about sunglasses when you've barely even talked? Talk about sweating the small stuff... This just goes to show you were not a match. Good thing you met for coffee.

Ugh. Best part about just meeting for coffee w/ an online possibility? You can leave quickly if it's a clear non-match.

Don't overthink it OP. Clearly you two weren't a match - that's all that matters. Be glad it was so obvious, so fast, and that's all the time you spent on it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We'll, it's awkward to talk to someone if you can't see their eyes. In the future, I'd suggest arranging the seating so sunglasses aren't necessary.

I really dislike talking to people with sunglasses on. Maybe you could date Bono.

+1

No kidding!

OP, you seem high maintenance. Next time, think outside your comfort zone (!!!) and suggest to switch seats, instead of making everyone else feel awkward about what you are doing.

Grow up.

I think the person asking others to remove accessories is the high maintenance one.

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Anonymous wrote:I think he sounds like a controlling freak and you are better off knowing that now.

+ 1000

+2000

Being late was just part of his game.

Changing your location was the second phase.

Insinuating about last night was the third part.

Then he made you move again.

It was all to put your footing off. You were smart to leave.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We'll, it's awkward to talk to someone if you can't see their eyes. In the future, I'd suggest arranging the seating so sunglasses aren't necessary.

I really dislike talking to people with sunglasses on. Maybe you could date Bono.

+1

No kidding!

OP, you seem high maintenance. Next time, think outside your comfort zone (!!!) and suggest to switch seats, instead of making everyone else feel awkward about what you are doing.

Grow up.

Anonymous wrote:Everyone was rude. You were rude for wearing big old sunglasses on a first date and he was rude for pointing it out and making a big deal of it.

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Anonymous wrote:If you dislike talking to people with sunglasses on, then don't ask them to sit outside in the sunshine on a first date.

+1

I would have been turned off by you wearing the sunglasses at the beginning of the date, but I wouldn't have said anything.

I think maybe some people are more sensitive to the sun than others. People with lighter eyes need to wear sunglasses more or it can be really uncomfortable. He's an ass.

When you're trying to connect with someone, wearing sunglasses could make it hard to accomplish that. That said, wearing sunglasses is nowhere near as rude as being late and then making a crack about the social life of someone you don't know ("long night last night?").