Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, since you asked. I'n the type of bride you speak of. We want you to be there. Just be respectful, and do the best you can.

If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

I like the dark suit idea. For crying out loud, borrow a friends long dress, or go to a department store and buy something on sale that fits you well. And some unscuffed shoes that match.

No one is going to know, unless you have this uneasy, "why are we even here" look on your face when you show up. Please don't do that. Be gracious, inclusive, happy, personable, positive, and have fun. Guests will remember you for that, and I will too! "Who was that wonderful lady dancing her heart out..."

If you make a big "to do" about things, we will assume you really don't want to go, and in that case, would rather you did not. "Who was that sourpuss wearing capri pants...."

Since you asked. And I wish more people did!

This is one of the most condescending, grossest posts I've read on here in a long time.

+1000000

disgusting

Dress Barn. I've purchased dresses from here and gotten tons of compliments. All the time actually. Shoes and jewelry, no...but the dresses are usually $50 and you don't wear the price tag on the outside. Or go to the outlets in Leesburg. Also second the suggestion for Nordstrom Rack. Macy's with a coupon. Most of standard dressy dresses are $150 to start. Go w/a coupon and there are always tons of dresses on sale already.

Anonymous wrote:OP, since you asked. I'n the type of bride you speak of. We want you to be there. Just be respectful, and do the best you can.

If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

I like the dark suit idea. For crying out loud, borrow a friends long dress, or go to a department store and buy something on sale that fits you well. And some unscuffed shoes that match.

No one is going to know, unless you have this uneasy, "why are we even here" look on your face when you show up. Please don't do that. Be gracious, inclusive, happy, personable, positive, and have fun. Guests will remember you for that, and I will too! "Who was that wonderful lady dancing her heart out..."

If you make a big "to do" about things, we will assume you really don't want to go, and in that case, would rather you did not. "Who was that sourpuss wearing capri pants...."

Since you asked. And I wish more people did!

This is one of the most condescending, grossest posts I've read on here in a long time.

Burlington Coat Factory for you DH. Black suit, white shirt, black silk tie. Done, easy, and not pricey. Plus, he has it for the next time.

There are countless options for you less than $150.

Give a gift that you like -- my favorite non-registry item is something personalized with their names and wedding date, something w/their invitation, etc. They obviously liked the invitation and what newlywed doesn't like to see their names and wedding date as they walk by? Toasting flutes? Cake and knife set? Obviously sent before the wedding. If it's personalized, the price is irrelevant. Cash is trickier b/c well, they know exactly what you're giving. $200 is an appropriate amount and I wouldn't think twice or think you are cheap.

As always, if all of this seems too much for you (which it doesn't -- you sound cool and like you were actually looking for ideas and suggestions)...just don't go. It is your prerogative to decline the invitation. But there are certainly ways for you to attend that can be done as inexpensively as possible. I would not let the attire or gift be the reason you decline.

Anonymous wrote:If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

Well, actually, no, it's not. Another thing you ask is for the guests to wear black-tie clothing. It's right there on your wedding invitation. And if you invited me and my partner (which you didn't), this would not be possible for us without a fuss.

Anonymous wrote:OP, since you asked. I'n the type of bride you speak of. We want you to be there. Just be respectful, and do the best you can.

If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

I like the dark suit idea. For crying out loud, borrow a friends long dress, or go to a department store and buy something on sale that fits you well. And some unscuffed shoes that match.

No one is going to know, unless you have this uneasy, "why are we even here" look on your face when you show up. Please don't do that. Be gracious, inclusive, happy, personable, positive, and have fun. Guests will remember you for that, and I will too! "Who was that wonderful lady dancing her heart out..."

If you make a big "to do" about things, we will assume you really don't want to go, and in that case, would rather you did not. "Who was that sourpuss wearing capri pants...."

Since you asked. And I wish more people did!

Ugh.

Anonymous wrote:OP, since you asked. I'n the type of bride you speak of. We want you to be there. Just be respectful, and do the best you can.

If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

I like the dark suit idea. For crying out loud, borrow a friends long dress, or go to a department store and buy something on sale that fits you well. And some unscuffed shoes that match.

No one is going to know, unless you have this uneasy, "why are we even here" look on your face when you show up. Please don't do that. Be gracious, inclusive, happy, personable, positive, and have fun. Guests will remember you for that, and I will too! "Who was that wonderful lady dancing her heart out..."

If you make a big "to do" about things, we will assume you really don't want to go, and in that case, would rather you did not. "Who was that sourpuss wearing capri pants...."

Since you asked. And I wish more people did!

You sound fun.

Excuse me, I need to get a knife to pry my eyeballs off the tops of my sockets. They're really stuck.

OP, since you asked. I'n the type of bride you speak of. We want you to be there. Just be respectful, and do the best you can.

If you show up in a casual outfit with an F.U. attitude, we will know and we will remember this. In no way is this a gift grab, we have everything we need! Please, don't fuss, just be respectful and have fun. That is all we ask.

I like the dark suit idea. For crying out loud, borrow a friends long dress, or go to a department store and buy something on sale that fits you well. And some unscuffed shoes that match.

No one is going to know, unless you have this uneasy, "why are we even here" look on your face when you show up. Please don't do that. Be gracious, inclusive, happy, personable, positive, and have fun. Guests will remember you for that, and I will too! "Who was that wonderful lady dancing her heart out..."

If you make a big "to do" about things, we will assume you really don't want to go, and in that case, would rather you did not. "Who was that sourpuss wearing capri pants...."

Since you asked. And I wish more people did!

Some options for your husband:

Tuxedo Rental from $59 - nationaltuxedorentals.com?
http://nationaltuxedorentals.com/?gclid=CMuN45Kl9sACFQQQ7AodFzcAtg

There are also other local tux shops where he can rent for under $100 if you really think he needs a tux. But I agree that a nice black suit with a black tie will work.

Alternatively, although I have a plain black tux, I occasionally get vest and bowtie sets in colors (I have a royal blue and a maroon) that make the tux look fancier. Those can also work under a black suit. The sets cost around $30 or so and and he could wear that under his black suit. You can get some at tux rental places, Men's Warehouse, Joseph A Banks, and other formalwear stores.

OP, my DH has had to a lot of black tie - while he owns a tux, he mainly wears a black or dark charcoal gray suit. We have a few friends who wear a dark suit with a silver tie. They look better than many of the tuxed guys.

Did the bride really opens the gifts in front of folks? I guess that's the tradition, but still find it tasteless.

If you are stressed, don't go. And why on earth would you give more just because they are rich?

Anonymous wrote:I would give $500. Get a cheaper dress that looks expensive. You got good advice on the suits. Find a way to afford it. A few hundred isn't a big deal.

You're a moron.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would give $500. Get a cheaper dress that looks expensive. You got good advice on the suits. Find a way to afford it. A few hundred isn't a big deal.

I would never give $500, that is insane!

There isn't anybody on this green earth I would give a $500 gift to, unless that person emerged from my vagina.

I was in a similar situation this summer. I purchased something off the registery - a mandoline - and made the note say how much we love making home made frech fries using ours - hoping they enjoy it as much.

Clothing - I pulled out an old dress - upped the jewlery and had fun.

http://www.overstock.com/Clothing-Shoes/Evening-Formal-Dresses/Gown,/style,/12724/subcat.html?sort=Lowest+Price&TID=SORT:Lowest+Price

http://www1.macys.com/shop/womens-clothing/dresses/Dress_occasion,Sortby,Productsperpage/Evening%2FFormal,PRICE_LOW_TO_HIGH,100?id=5449&edge=hybrid