Crap, just realized original post is from 2014.

What a weird post that revived it.

Anonymous wrote:OP, it really doesn't sound from your description that you should have ever been married to each other in the first place. Then, you decided to have kids together. So yes, I get what he's saying. Did you actually think that having kids would make your marriage better?

Yes, I totally get what your DH is saying.

Me too. I don’t see what’s so hard to understand here why would he wanted to stay married to someone he argues with all the time, and that he has to purposely avoid discussing MULTIPLE topics with? This marriage sounds like hell.

My wife and I are not a team. She brags about being a lion. But I tell her I got a whip and chair and I am not scared of her. I tell her I can take any of her brat acting shit but watch out don't treat the kids bad or now I am really pissed. This women has no empathy. Acts like a wild animal and I am not kidding one bit. Also she is a sick ass sex maniac. Only is nice to me to get sex. I feel sorry for her but getting tired of it. And what about her narcissistic personality she is way too pretty and horny for her own good.

As anyone who has been in any type of serious relationship knows quite well, in any heated argument, things get said in the heat of the moment that may or may not be true. Sometimes things are said to hurt the other person and there may not even be an ounce of truth to any of it at all.

This may or may not be the case at all.

What I would do is ask your husband when things are good (I know, buzzkill, right?) if he truly meant that statement. See what he says. If he admits sheepishly that he says it only because he is angry and uses that line to hurt you, then you know that deep down he really does not mean that.

However, if he takes a long time to answer, doesn't answer or admits that he does feel that way, then at least you will know 100% where things stand in your marriage for sure.

Armed w/that knowledge, it is up to you to decide how you would like to move forward. Would he agree to counseling? What about you? Or are things just too complicated at this point??

Only the two of you can answer these questions.

Good luck to you both. For the sake of your babies.

If he said it in the heat of argument, then it may have been one of his darker thoughts that he let slip out because you're both in a rough space in your marriage. I've had occasional thoughts like this as well, even though overall my marriage is pretty happy (and reading DCUM always makes me extra grateful for what we have), but I've only ever come close to saying it out loud when I was depressed. I think you've got to keep it in context. If he says this when you think things are going well, then he probably means it on some level. If he says it at the end of a two hour debate over NSync vs Backstreet Boys, then drop it and go to bed.