Anonymous wrote:Lol - I feel sooooo sorry for anyone dating in the 2K.
Social media has [b]totally[b] destroyed any and all confidence and courage from respective suitors to the point where both men and women alike are in a perpetual state of panic, paranoia and pessimism.
She didn't respond to my text the other night
He still has his dating profile up and it says "single"
He put a picture of us on Instagram
She is still friends with her ex on Facebook

WTF?!!
I cannot imagine how stressful it is for two people to get to know one another and establish a bond when there is so much confusion and distraction swirling around from the emphasis on social media and how it screws up their perceptions and plants all kinds of presumptions in their heads. I don't know maybe the teenagers growing up with it are well adapted and used to it, but grown adults who remember dating before Facebook and grew up talking more than texting - they're having a hell of a time acclimating themselves.

If I am ever (God forbid!) single again, I just want to meet someone through friends or an activity, use a telephone, and no FB. I am only cut out for romance in the 20th century.

Lol - I feel sooooo sorry for anyone dating in the 2K.
Social media has [b]totally[b] destroyed any and all confidence and courage from respective suitors to the point where both men and women alike are in a perpetual state of panic, paranoia and pessimism.
She didn't respond to my text the other night
He still has his dating profile up and it says "single"
He put a picture of us on Instagram
She is still friends with her ex on Facebook

WTF?!!
I cannot imagine how stressful it is for two people to get to know one another and establish a bond when there is so much confusion and distraction swirling around from the emphasis on social media and how it screws up their perceptions and plants all kinds of presumptions in their heads. I don't know maybe the teenagers growing up with it are well adapted and used to it, but grown adults who remember dating before Facebook and grew up talking more than texting - they're having a hell of a time acclimating themselves.

Anonymous wrote:We haven't talked about it. Part of me wants to break it off. He is possessive and I don't like that. There are no other women on there. We literally have been talking for only a month. After a week he wanted me to stop talking to other guys.

WTF do guys do that when they have a good thing started? It shows neediness and women f'ing hate needy guys. Really, dumbest strategy ever, especially if he is getting laid.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is filled with ridiculous overreactions.

Yes.

Also: putting up a picture of the two of you as his profile pic after just a month is taking things way too fast. I say dump him.

- a dude.

Seriously. I don't even include spouse in my FB profile pic. I think it's weird.

Well...I put a pic up of me with my now wife at about the six-month mark. However, we'd already had the exclusive talk and had made it past the 3 month lust/infatuation window. At that point, it was a bit more like making sure all the old dating profiles were down, and making it clear publicly that yes, I was exclusive with this person. Right now, because I don't FB much, our wedding pics are still what is up. I probably need to update that.

I was also happy to show off what a cute hottie my wife is.

I don't think he's psycho but at one month, and he hasn't had the exclusive talk with her yet, he's really rushing it. She should find out from him, not FB, that they are exclusive and a "couple". I knew at one month that things, unless we really ran into something major, were very likely to work out with my wife. But I also know from being an adult with a few dating relationships under my belt, that sometimes promising starts fall about in the first 3-6 months.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're hot he may just be using it to show off.

I don't think I would win many beauty contests but I get my fair share of men.

I think that this could be it. Having a good-looking woman in his profile pic potentially makes him more desirable to other women, sort of like a wedding rings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This thread is filled with ridiculous overreactions.

Yes.

Also: putting up a picture of the two of you as his profile pic after just a month is taking things way too fast. I say dump him.

- a dude.

Seriously. I don't even include spouse in my FB profile pic. I think it's weird.