Just tell him he is never moving in with you ever. He was a lazy father. Don't let him mess up your life. Tell him he needs therapy.

Tell him how much you would have to charge him a month. Then he'll make other plans.

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Anonymous wrote:To the person who said he needs to get a job at McDonalds it is very hard for seniors to get jobs. My 64 year old, ex-lawyer mother applied at craft stores, book stores, etc. and never got any call backs.

Why can't she just keep being a lawyer at 64? Plenty of lawyers at that age who are not retired and don't have to look for jobs at craft stores.

She is smarter than most lawyers and (like me) retired to get out (at 58 in my case).

The point of retiring is not having to look for a job or working ever again. She should have kept working as a lawyer if she has to look for a job in craft stores at 64.

-signed a lawyer who retired at 56.

No -- the point of retiring is having the freedom to do whatevvvva in the heck you want to do which might include working at a craft store

Right -- we all aspire to be the greeter at Walmart during retirement. Not.

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Anonymous wrote:To the person who said he needs to get a job at McDonalds it is very hard for seniors to get jobs. My 64 year old, ex-lawyer mother applied at craft stores, book stores, etc. and never got any call backs.

Why can't she just keep being a lawyer at 64? Plenty of lawyers at that age who are not retired and don't have to look for jobs at craft stores.

She is smarter than most lawyers and (like me) retired to get out (at 58 in my case).

The point of retiring is not having to look for a job or working ever again. She should have kept working as a lawyer if she has to look for a job in craft stores at 64.

-signed a lawyer who retired at 56.

No -- the point of retiring is having the freedom to do whatevvvva in the heck you want to do which might include working at a craft store

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the person who said he needs to get a job at McDonalds it is very hard for seniors to get jobs. My 64 year old, ex-lawyer mother applied at craft stores, book stores, etc. and never got any call backs.

Why can't she just keep being a lawyer at 64? Plenty of lawyers at that age who are not retired and don't have to look for jobs at craft stores.

She is smarter than most lawyers and (like me) retired to get out (at 58 in my case).

The point of retiring is not having to look for a job or working ever again. She should have kept working as a lawyer if she has to look for a job in craft stores at 64.

-signed a lawyer who retired at 56.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I told him he can't live here in out guest room. He laughed a really loud (and fake I might add) laugh and said this: "HAHAHAHAHA I was just kidding about that!" Obviously he wasn't kidding but if it makes him feel better I'm happy to humor him. Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Now I just have to keep strong next time he announces he's living with us...

60 years olds are still human beings. He was just testing your feelings for him. You made it loud and clear.

I think he made his feelings about OP pretty clear. He neglected her for most of their lives, and now that he hasn't planned, and doesn't want to work for everything, he wants to be BFFs?

Family doesn't get to take advantage of us just because they're family.

Keep him in Kentucky v DC area. filial support laws. http://www.reddit.com/r/YouShouldKnow/comments/2d2gh2/ysk_29_states_in_the_us_have_filial/

How's medicaid in Kentucky v the DC area?

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Anonymous wrote:OP here, I told him he can't live here in out guest room. He laughed a really loud (and fake I might add) laugh and said this: "HAHAHAHAHA I was just kidding about that!" Obviously he wasn't kidding but if it makes him feel better I'm happy to humor him. Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Now I just have to keep strong next time he announces he's living with us...

60 years olds are still human beings. He was just testing your feelings for him. You made it loud and clear.

OP is telling an able bodied man to get a life. Not like she is telling a man who had a stroke and can't walk to move on.

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Anonymous wrote:To the person who said he needs to get a job at McDonalds it is very hard for seniors to get jobs. My 64 year old, ex-lawyer mother applied at craft stores, book stores, etc. and never got any call backs.

Why can't she just keep being a lawyer at 64? Plenty of lawyers at that age who are not retired and don't have to look for jobs at craft stores.

She is smarter than most lawyers and (like me) retired to get out (at 58 in my case).

OP, the man sounds lazy and controlling. He should reap what he sowed.

OP, your dad sucks. Stay strong and keep telling him NO if he brings it up again. Convenient that he wants to be around so much now, when he wants something. He sounds happy to have you partially supporting him. I wonder why in the world he believes you would be interested in doing that.

Does he work? If he's really planning to retire, you and your husband should have a serious sit-down with him and ask him what his plans are. And present a united front in pushing back if your father talks about doing anything that's not convenient for you. You are entitled to your own family life without him. 62 is too young to leech onto someone who doesn't want you.

Next time he brings up living with you and then says it's a joke, say "Oh, thank GOD!! Haha! That would be such a disaster! Haha! I can't even imagine that! Good one, Dad!"

Anonymous wrote:Most places really aren't interested in older workers. There have been many articles about this issue. She is fit and healthy but is too tired by the evening to be a night sitter. She'd fall asleep.

Age discrimination is tough. She maybe sounds like a good candidate for afternoon sitter for kids who need to be picked up from school, shuttled to afternoon activities, start on homework and/or eat dinner?

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I told him he can't live here in out guest room. He laughed a really loud (and fake I might add) laugh and said this: "HAHAHAHAHA I was just kidding about that!" Obviously he wasn't kidding but if it makes him feel better I'm happy to humor him. Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Now I just have to keep strong next time he announces he's living with us...

60 years olds are still human beings. He was just testing your feelings for him. You made it loud and clear.

Anonymous wrote:To the person who said he needs to get a job at McDonalds it is very hard for seniors to get jobs. My 64 year old, ex-lawyer mother applied at craft stores, book stores, etc. and never got any call backs.

Why can't she just keep being a lawyer at 64? Plenty of lawyers at that age who are not retired and don't have to look for jobs at craft stores.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, I told him he can't live here in out guest room. He laughed a really loud (and fake I might add) laugh and said this: "HAHAHAHAHA I was just kidding about that!" Obviously he wasn't kidding but if it makes him feel better I'm happy to humor him. Thanks for the encouragement everyone. Now I just have to keep strong next time he announces he's living with us...

Ah, so this is how he operates.

He comes out with a statement instead of a polite request, and hopes you'll just go with it. It shows that he doesn't believe he deserves it or that you'll say yes if he asked. He's just hoping to guilt you into it, because "After all, I am her father! Blood is thicker than water!".

Ugh. Stand firm, OP.