Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

Such a naive and childish view of the world. Life and relationships are more complex than your old sayings.

An old saying?

I actually said that at my wedding. It was a vow. You understand the difference between a saying and a vow?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

Such a naive and childish view of the world. Life and relationships are more complex than your old sayings.

Yes, fidelity and integrity are childish, you and your naughty sex are sooo grown up. What's it like, being one of the cool kids?

Although I agree that cheating is the easy way out - having your cake and eating it too (to use an old saying) - I definitely don't thing "For better or for worse" should be a reason to remain in an emotionless, sexless prison. Either work on it, or get out. But getting out is (and must be) an option. You only have one life. You are the sole author of the dictionary that defines you.

This.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

Such a naive and childish view of the world. Life and relationships are more complex than your old sayings.

Yes, fidelity and integrity are childish, you and your naughty sex are sooo grown up. What's it like, being one of the cool kids?

Although I agree that cheating is the easy way out - having your cake and eating it too (to use an old saying) - I definitely don't thing "For better or for worse" should be a reason to remain in an emotionless, sexless prison. Either work on it, or get out. But getting out is (and must be) an option. You only have one life. You are the sole author of the dictionary that defines you.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

Such a naive and childish view of the world. Life and relationships are more complex than your old sayings.

Yes, fidelity and integrity are childish, you and your naughty sex are sooo grown up. What's it like, being one of the cool kids?

Anonymous wrote:I've not actually cheated.... Yet.
But I find myself now obsessing over the pure excitement that a new sex partner brings.
At least that's how I remember things from long ago.
I've not experienced that in 2 decades, but I am very nearly ready to take this risk.
Some recent flirting episodes have really perked me up and this thought is progressing.

20:40 here. Yes - it's fun. It's incredible. Amazing. But I'm no longer interested in cheating to do it.. I'd rather be single. And free. It seems more honest - for everyone involved.

I've not actually cheated.... Yet.
But I find myself now obsessing over the pure excitement that a new sex partner brings.
At least that's how I remember things from long ago.
I've not experienced that in 2 decades, but I am very nearly ready to take this risk.
Some recent flirting episodes have really perked me up and this thought is progressing.

Anonymous wrote:Those that have answered - do you feel guilty? Or are you just comfortable with it at this point. It seems that you are comfortable and there are no feelings of guilt by the tone of the messages I am reading in this thread.

I didn't feel guilt as long as it was just fucking.. but then I met someone and let my guard down. And fell for them. That hurt. And I felt, deeply, uncomfortable. I broke it off and am back with DW - for now (she has no idea).

Anonymous wrote:DH here. I cheat becaue the feeling of being desired is beyond intoxicating. My DW will let me have sex with her but she doen't really want to.. sex feels good for her but she doesn't crave it. Having a woman really want you to fuck her is perhaps the best feeling a man can have. Living a life without feeling occasionally desired is soul crushing.

I echo that sentiment. As an OW. In my experience, what the men have told me they missed is that feeling of being desired, of being wanted. But to be fair to their wives, it's not that easy to want something intensely that you've become so familiar with. The attraction is there between us because I don't have to live with them and put up with their shit daily like their wives do.

DH here. I cheat becaue the feeling of being desired is beyond intoxicating. My DW will let me have sex with her but she doen't really want to.. sex feels good for her but she doesn't crave it. Having a woman really want you to fuck her is perhaps the best feeling a man can have. Living a life without feeling occasionally desired is soul crushing.

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

I love me some cliché's!

Anonymous wrote:Those that have answered - do you feel guilty? Or are you just comfortable with it at this point. It seems that you are comfortable and there are no feelings of guilt by the tone of the messages I am reading in this thread.

I don't feel guilty. My ability to have sexual feelings for another woman has nothing to do with how I feel about DW. It is totally compartmentalized.

My view -one of lifes greatest pleaures is that feeling of new mutual attraction. That first kiss . The butterflies. I miss it, so i indulge from time to time. I would be fine with my wife occasionally cheating too, I think it is only fair she could feel that initial rush too. I jut wouldnt want to know about it.

Anonymous wrote:Those that have answered - do you feel guilty? Or are you just comfortable with it at this point. It seems that you are comfortable and there are no feelings of guilt by the tone of the messages I am reading in this thread.

I answered, I don't feel guilty. I guess because I don't fall in love and want to leave DH. I just want a little fling on the side to put some spice in my day.

Those that have answered - do you feel guilty? Or are you just comfortable with it at this point. It seems that you are comfortable and there are no feelings of guilt by the tone of the messages I am reading in this thread.

Anonymous wrote:"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.

Such a naive and childish view of the world. Life and relationships are more complex than your old sayings.

"For better or for worse"....unless the sex is bad

Conditional love seems to be the norm these days.