my sil is like this. can't stand her. i think she likes the attention, feeling wanted, and gets a rush over being deemed more desirable than gf, wife, fiance etc.

If their wives didn't want them, why would single women want them?

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

Maybe in the D.C. area married men have disposable income they can use to attract single women. In most other cities, married middle aged men have no left over money, and they would be lucky to find another married woman to commiserate with and have sex with outside of their miserable marriages. I doubt that 20% of single women would want your sorry married behind and your bills and your bratty kids and your crazy ex wife.

I suppose if you assume that women has no sex drive, never get lonely and the only reason they approach any man is with the intention of getting pregnant and breaking up a family home, then you would be on to something. On the other hand, it's also very possible women have desires, chemical attractions and urges like everyone does, and they aren't thinking of the ramifications of just having an innocent cocktail at the bar with the handsome and wealthy but married man that is giving them attention.

For what it's worth, I am not condoning cheating, etc. but to imply that only evil stone hearted manipulative people engage in this stuff is not anywhere close to accurate.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

Maybe in the D.C. area married men have disposable income they can use to attract single women. In most other cities, married middle aged men have no left over money, and they would be lucky to find another married woman to commiserate with and have sex with outside of their miserable marriages. I doubt that 20% of single women would want your sorry married behind and your bills and your bratty kids and your crazy ex wife.

Yes, yes, DC is sooo unique and special.

It is. DC is the most affluent and educated large city on the planet.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

I am genuinely curious - how do these single women approach you? In what context? It's hard to imagine - I never once considered hitting on a married man when I was single.

I wrote the PP - I should mention that single women approaching me is relatively rare, maybe a couple times a month? It adds up. It is usually in a professional setting. Could be a conference and we are in a group working on a project and you get an invite to go have a drink after. Or you are out with clients and run into the secretary from another floor that approaches you and while tipsy makes some confession about you. I also get approached on guys night out from time to time, but most women do change from flirtatious to friendly once they see the ring.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

Maybe in the D.C. area married men have disposable income they can use to attract single women. In most other cities, married middle aged men have no left over money, and they would be lucky to find another married woman to commiserate with and have sex with outside of their miserable marriages. I doubt that 20% of single women would want your sorry married behind and your bills and your bratty kids and your crazy ex wife.

Yes, yes, DC is sooo unique and special.

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Anonymous wrote:Same reason MANY men are attracted to married women. As a matter of fact, I feel like my ring is a man magnet when I'm out at a bar with my friends.

Many of these people enjoy the no-string, no commitment sexual relationship. Also married people will fuck your brains out. Many of them are not getting enough of it at home, so when they get the opportunity it is pretty intense.

As a woman married 16 years I can assure you, if I had sex outside of my marriage, I'd fuck like it was my last day on earth.

I think married men are into married women, but single men are not--at least not as much as single women are into married men.

I think it's mostly a status thing. A married man has more status than an unmarried man. Also, after a certain age, single men tend to be scrunitized as "there must be something wrong is he's still single." A married man is deemed to have been vetted and has a track record.

My experience is that it is both single and married men. I have a single friend I go out with sometimes and often it is guys coming up to me more than her. I'm convinced it's the ring.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

Maybe in the D.C. area married men have disposable income they can use to attract single women. In most other cities, married middle aged men have no left over money, and they would be lucky to find another married woman to commiserate with and have sex with outside of their miserable marriages. I doubt that 20% of single women would want your sorry married behind and your bills and your bratty kids and your crazy ex wife.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all married men wear their wedding rings or talk about their wives or are honest about being married. Some married men act single.

Married women should be way more concerned about their DHs commiserating with and having sex and affairs with MARRIED women instead of single women.

Most affairs are between two married people, commiserating with each other and helping each other out of their miserable marriages.

Smart single women are usually single for a reason. They have high standards, and they would not put up with the bull most women put up with just to have a man in their lives. Why would those women have to settle or share a married man, and put up with his bratty kids and crazy ex wife? No thank you!

DH here, at the risk of being immodest, I am attractive and professionally successful. I actually disagree with this. Most of the women who hit on me are single. It is about 10-1 single versus married women who make themselves available.

I know there are obvious exceptions, but it generally seems true that women cheat on their husbands when they are unhappy but men cheat because they have a penis.

I am genuinely curious - how do these single women approach you? In what context? It's hard to imagine - I never once considered hitting on a married man when I was single.

Anonymous wrote:Same reason MANY men are attracted to married women. As a matter of fact, I feel like my ring is a man magnet when I'm out at a bar with my friends.

Many of these people enjoy the no-string, no commitment sexual relationship. Also married people will fuck your brains out. Many of them are not getting enough of it at home, so when they get the opportunity it is pretty intense.

As a woman married 16 years I can assure you, if I had sex outside of my marriage, I'd fuck like it was my last day on earth.

I think married men are into married women, but single men are not--at least not as much as single women are into married men.

I think it's mostly a status thing. A married man has more status than an unmarried man. Also, after a certain age, single men tend to be scrunitized as "there must be something wrong is he's still single." A married man is deemed to have been vetted and has a track record.

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

And you have a wedding planned... NOT!

Anonymous wrote:OW here. I'd never been attracted to a married man before meeting this particular man. In fact, I, too, used to judge and criticize women who were in relationships with married men. In my case, I met a man to whom I found myself extremely attracted. It seems it was mutual. I know there's no future here, but he gives me something other men haven't in a long time.

I think you are lying to yourself when you say you know there is no future here. You hope for a future with him.
You are hoping he will leave his family for you.

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so sure there's no end game. My married man is now getting a divorce.

Does he have kids?

Same reason MANY men are attracted to married women. As a matter of fact, I feel like my ring is a man magnet when I'm out at a bar with my friends.

Many of these people enjoy the no-string, no commitment sexual relationship. Also married people will fuck your brains out. Many of them are not getting enough of it at home, so when they get the opportunity it is pretty intense.

As a woman married 16 years I can assure you, if I had sex outside of my marriage, I'd fuck like it was my last day on earth.