Anonymous
08/20/2014 08:47
Subject: Hall pass, but where to go?
Forget the hall pass. If she's not giving it up regularly you should've given yourself a hall pass a long time ago. Your relationship sounds awful. Might as well have as much sex as you can with as many people as you can. Good luck. I hope your skills are sharp enough so you can start having some fun!
Anonymous
08/20/2014 05:26
Subject: Re:Hall pass, but where to go?
MrUnreal wrote:Sit her down, romance the hell out of her with flowers, candles, some marvin gaye and burn that pass. Now after this effort if she gives you another one, then ask if she will participate to eliminate the possibility of using this in a divorce.
This is horrible advice! Don't you think he's already tried the flowers and music trick a few thousand times?
Why should he romance somebody who doesn't like sex and wants him to get it elsewhere?
And what does Divorce have to do with it?
She can divorce him (or he can divorce her) regardless of any extra marital sex.
Anonymous
08/20/2014 05:01
Subject: Re:Hall pass, but where to go?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:...Also, the OP said his wife has zero sex drive. If I was unable or unwilling to have sex with my DW of course I would give her a hall pass. How cruel do you have to be to your spouse to deny them the opportunity to have a sex life?
Finally a sane poster. Thanks
+1
Anonymous
08/19/2014 16:30
Subject: Hall pass, but where to go?
I suggest Tinder. Use regularly. Send a dick pic 15 minutes into all texting conversations or she'll think there's a problem.
Anonymous
08/19/2014 16:20
Subject: Re:Hall pass, but where to go?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would give my wife a hall pass, monogamy is boring. It's about being secure in your relationship.
Go for OK Cupid. It's hard to meet and have sex with a woman in the same night.
If monogamy is boring, maybe you are doing it wrong! That being said, some people are monogamous and some are not. The problem arises when a non-monogamous person marries a monogamous person. Can't work.
Don't pull the "I'm secure in my relationship so I can have sex with others" card. That is BS for MANY couples. Read some of these forums and you will see that while open relationships works for SOME, it does NOT work for all. It has nothing to do with security in your relationship and everything to do with whether you are a "non monogamous" couple or not.
I agree that if a woman doesn't care who you are having sex with, the relationship is over. It is possible that she is seeing someone on the side or is planning on it. You can't get object if YOU are having sex with someone else, now can you?
All I have to say is, make sure you use protection so you're not spreading STDs and don't get the OW pregnant. I seriously doubt you will find someone with such low self esteem she will agree to be the OW.
Holy lord, this is the most judgmental screed I have heard in a while. Newsflash, all men want to sleep with women other than their wives. Most would gladly accept a hall pass if it was freely given (whether they could cash it in is another story). I am sure a lot of women would use a hall pass too.
Also, the OP said his wife has zero sex drive. If I was unable or unwilling to have sex with my DW of course I would give her a hall pass. How cruel do you have to be to your spouse to deny them the opportunity to have a sex life?
Finally a sane poster. Thanks
Anonymous
08/19/2014 12:23
Subject: Re:Hall pass, but where to go?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I would give my wife a hall pass, monogamy is boring. It's about being secure in your relationship.
Go for OK Cupid. It's hard to meet and have sex with a woman in the same night.
If monogamy is boring, maybe you are doing it wrong! That being said, some people are monogamous and some are not. The problem arises when a non-monogamous person marries a monogamous person. Can't work.
Don't pull the "I'm secure in my relationship so I can have sex with others" card. That is BS for MANY couples. Read some of these forums and you will see that while open relationships works for SOME, it does NOT work for all. It has nothing to do with security in your relationship and everything to do with whether you are a "non monogamous" couple or not.
I agree that if a woman doesn't care who you are having sex with, the relationship is over. It is possible that she is seeing someone on the side or is planning on it. You can't get object if YOU are having sex with someone else, now can you?
All I have to say is, make sure you use protection so you're not spreading STDs and don't get the OW pregnant. I seriously doubt you will find someone with such low self esteem she will agree to be the OW.
Holy lord, this is the most judgmental screed I have heard in a while. Newsflash, all men want to sleep with women other than their wives. Most would gladly accept a hall pass if it was freely given (whether they could cash it in is another story). I am sure a lot of women would use a hall pass too.
Also, the OP said his wife has zero sex drive. If I was unable or unwilling to have sex with my DW of course I would give her a hall pass. How cruel do you have to be to your spouse to deny them the opportunity to have a sex life?
Anonymous
08/19/2014 11:32
Subject: Hall pass, but where to go?
OP, hall pass or not, you are not the only one looking for a female FWB.
A classy woman is going to expect to be treated romantically.
Never forget this: any woman who's willing to hop right into bed with you after a few emails should be avoided. It's either a dude or a crazy woman.
A classy woman is going to expect to be treated romantically.
Never forget this: any woman who's willing to hop right into bed with you after a few emails should be avoided. It's either a dude or a crazy woman.
MrUnreal
08/19/2014 11:07
Subject: Re:Hall pass, but where to go?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't go anywhere, it is a trap.
Fixed that for ya.
+1000
+1,000,000
Sit her down, romance the hell out of her with flowers, candles, some marvin gaye and burn that pass. Now after this effort if she gives you another one, then ask if she will participate to eliminate the possibility of using this in a divorce.