I think it's more annoying to BE the plus 1. Go to someone's wedding I have never met as a favor for a friend? Yuck. But sometimes friends to favors like that, so think of her as doing something nice for your brother. You're going to be so busy that day. Let it go.

Isn't an RSVP date a deadline?

OP, if you didn't give your brother a deadline to add his +1, then you don't really have anything to complain about it. I understand you're annoyed, but this is on you.

Anonymous wrote:So you can afford the expense just fine, and have already made the adjustments to accommodate her, what's the issue exactly?

That it's annoying. And I wanted to vent. And hear others' thoughts.

Are you paying for their travel expenses? I don't understand why you're so upset that he isn't bringing a significant other. If that was your goal, you shouldn't have mentioned +1, which suggests a random filler life form. If you wanted on SOs, you wait until your siblings mention someone repeatedly, then say, "Is this serious? Do you want me to send him/her an invitation to the wedding?"

If you aren't paying the travel expenses and are instead demanding that other people shell out for Your Very Special Day That Is All about You, you have no business complaining.

So you can afford the expense just fine, and have already made the adjustments to accommodate her, what's the issue exactly?

this same situation happened to my friend. her husband's sister brought a random no one had ever met or heard of to their wedding. and didn't even give a card or gift!!

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Anonymous wrote:If the cost of one additional guest is going to make or break your budget, perhaps you should have planned a wedding you could actually afford.

Now knowing that most of you spoiled bitches had your parents financing your insanely expensive weddings, this statement is laughable.

11:09 here, we had a very modest contribution by one parent, otherwise paid for it ourselves (and kept it simple to do so). So, you know, taking our own advice.

We even managed to let everyone have a +1.

I would not bring a +1 that wasn't my SO to a sibling's wedding. I view a sibling's wedding as a time for family, to spend time with people, and to help out where I can. Not for bringing a random friend to party!

Anonymous wrote:I replied previously that you should accept the plus1, but since it's not just a dinner but a whole trip you're financing, I think that's pretty obnoxious of your brother and this friend. He probably said, "Don't worry, sis is loaded!" and she took him up on the offer.

Sibling is not taking time off. Wedding is a 2hour flight from where he lives and is over a holiday weekend. Sibling is flying down Sat and leaving Monday (the holiday). Sibling is paying for flight, but not hotel, since my parents are covering that for him. The +1 will be staying in my bro's hotel room.

Anonymous wrote:If the cost of one additional guest is going to make or break your budget, perhaps you should have planned a wedding you could actually afford.

It's not about the money. We can afford it just fine. We would have preferred to extend an additional invitation to someone else.

I replied previously that you should accept the plus1, but since it's not just a dinner but a whole trip you're financing, I think that's pretty obnoxious of your brother and this friend. He probably said, "Don't worry, sis is loaded!" and she took him up on the offer.

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Anonymous wrote:People are in a bad mood today! OP is paying.

I can sympathize, OP, but I have seen it from brother's side, too. I'm guessing there are other issues at play here that you aren't detailing.

Yes there are other issues (this same sibling asked my parents not to financially contribute so that money wouldn't be taken away from the allowance my parents give him...he is a grad student). I don't mind if people are in bad moods today or feeling particularly feisty. I sought out the opinions, so I can take it...

I have always assumed that if a +1 was not a romantic partner, then it should be someone at least the bride or groom knows. Maybe my assumption was wrong. I've been wrong before.

That is the usual assumption OP, but as I'm sure you know a bride can't do anything right.

Anonymous wrote:People are in a bad mood today! OP is paying.

I can sympathize, OP, but I have seen it from brother's side, too. I'm guessing there are other issues at play here that you aren't detailing.

Yes there are other issues (this same sibling asked my parents not to financially contribute so that money wouldn't be taken away from the allowance my parents give him...he is a grad student). I don't mind if people are in bad moods today or feeling particularly feisty. I sought out the opinions, so I can take it...

I have always assumed that if a +1 was not a romantic partner, then it should be someone at least the bride or groom knows. Maybe my assumption was wrong. I've been wrong before.

Anonymous wrote:If the cost of one additional guest is going to make or break your budget, perhaps you should have planned a wedding you could actually afford.

Now knowing that most of you spoiled bitches had your parents financing your insanely expensive weddings, this statement is laughable.