Anonymous
07/19/2014 18:48
Subject: What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
Or maybe OP is just a cruel troll.
Interesting that s/he has not returned to answer a single follow up question to what is a truly exploitive thread.
Interesting that s/he has not returned to answer a single follow up question to what is a truly exploitive thread.
Anonymous
07/19/2014 16:22
Subject: What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
P.S. I would not discuss this with her until you feel more like a concerned mother than a wronged wife. Don't bring DH's betrayal to this. She did not betray you in keeping this from you. Maybe she was in denial, and thought if you didn't know it would stop and go away. Very complicated for her.
Anonymous
07/19/2014 15:59
Subject: What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
OP,
I actually think it might be a relief for your daughter to know that you know. Imagine the burden she's carried. Can you have a loving conversation, and tell her you know, you've discussed it with dad, you understand why she didn't tell you, it must have been so hard. I mean gosh OP don't you feel for her? I feel for you of course!
How did you find out, and how do you know DD knows?
I actually think it might be a relief for your daughter to know that you know. Imagine the burden she's carried. Can you have a loving conversation, and tell her you know, you've discussed it with dad, you understand why she didn't tell you, it must have been so hard. I mean gosh OP don't you feel for her? I feel for you of course!
How did you find out, and how do you know DD knows?
Anonymous
07/19/2014 15:15
Subject: What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
No!! Poor kid probably didn't know what to do. Don't put her in the middle anymore than she already is!
Anonymous
07/19/2014 13:57
Subject: Re:What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
"DD I am so sorry that you have been in this situation. It's important to me that you know that I do not, in any way, hold you responsible. And I completely understand that you must have had conflicted feelings about what you knew, and if you have been feeling divided loyalties, that would be completely normal, and I understand."
OP, please don't pepper your daughter with questions, as much as you'd like to know. She is in a bad place. (As are you, and my heart goes out to your family.)
OP, please don't pepper your daughter with questions, as much as you'd like to know. She is in a bad place. (As are you, and my heart goes out to your family.)
Anonymous
07/18/2014 18:18
Subject: Re:What Did She Know and When Did She Know It
Wait, maybe OP wants to know because she is worried for her daughter.
I do recommend therapy. And treating your daughter with compassion. I think its natural to feel betrayed by both, but remember your daughter was in an impossible position. She is going to need help to trust again and to figure this all out herself.
I do recommend therapy. And treating your daughter with compassion. I think its natural to feel betrayed by both, but remember your daughter was in an impossible position. She is going to need help to trust again and to figure this all out herself.