Anonymous wrote:The gist of recent threads here on DCUM is that any parental involvement in academic of your college-age child is strictly verboten “they are adults for Pete’s sake!” Yet, when it comes to consuming alcohol, we should have our college age kids under an iron thumb – not even acknowledge the reality that many of them will drink. The hypocrisy is endless. I think BOTH issues require SOME parental involvement and counseling. Unfortunately the alcohol issue has become more complicated due to the archaic drinking age law (The US is one of only four developed countries in the world that has a nationwide drinking age of over 18, with the other three being South Korea (19), Iceland (20), and Japan (20)) I came of age when the drinking age was still 18 and attended a big party school, but even there we did not have the type of routine binge drinking that goes on at MANY college campuses today. The rise in assaults of intoxicated female college students is directly related to the rise in binge drinking that followed the change in the legal drinking age.

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Anonymous wrote:This is an area where parents of girls need to have heightened concern - and don't judge me as sexist, but this is reality. Girls face a danger that boys just don't face.

I sure wouldn't want my son to choose one of the big Greek life schools, but I would absolutely prohibit my daughter from doing so.

Even if you aren't Catholic, many Catholic schools have no Greek life and offer a comparatively safe environment for your DD. Additionally, some schools are ahead of the curve are have eliminated Greek life altogether.

http://www.newsweek.com/inside-colleges-killed-frats-good-231346

I'm pretty sure that none of the parents of young men accused/found guilty of rape sent their sons to college thinking: "great, this is a place where he can really hone his skills as a sexual predator!" For all those young women who were raped, there was a young man who raped. Talk to your sons.

Thanks, but talking to my son doesn't in any way protect my daughter.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

You're implying that a young woman consented to being anally penetrated in public by multiple men, because she "felt bad for them" while she was drunk?

You really think a woman would CONSENT to that?

Some would, and have, and then regret and choose to recharacterize their foolish behavior.

Anonymous wrote:I've never heard of it. Where is it?

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Anonymous wrote:This is an area where parents of girls need to have heightened concern - and don't judge me as sexist, but this is reality. Girls face a danger that boys just don't face.

I sure wouldn't want my son to choose one of the big Greek life schools, but I would absolutely prohibit my daughter from doing so.

Even if you aren't Catholic, many Catholic schools have no Greek life and offer a comparatively safe environment for your DD. Additionally, some schools are ahead of the curve are have eliminated Greek life altogether.

http://www.newsweek.com/inside-colleges-killed-frats-good-231346

I'm pretty sure that none of the parents of young men accused/found guilty of rape sent their sons to college thinking: "great, this is a place where he can really hone his skills as a sexual predator!" For all those young women who were raped, there was a young man who raped. Talk to your sons.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

You're implying that a young woman consented to being anally penetrated in public by multiple men, because she "felt bad for them" while she was drunk?

You really think a woman would CONSENT to that?

No. I am not. I believe this girls was raped. But many girls binge drink with red bull and there is no indication to onlookers that she will not remember consenting in the morning.

Also... You may want to visit the explicit forum... Many people like to have Sex in public. Many women will bend over a table to have sex (and p.s. That does not mean it is a-sex, it could be v-sex).

Also, women consent to multiple sex partners all the time.

So... I do not think THIS woman consented to this sex act (as evidenced by the blunt force trama) but I do believe there are girls who do consent to this.

H&W tainted the evidence so badly there will never be a conviction.

Only police trained to investigate sex assaults should be involved.

The DCUM explicit forum is hardly a representative sample of what women do "all the time."

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

You're implying that a young woman consented to being anally penetrated in public by multiple men, because she "felt bad for them" while she was drunk?

You really think a woman would CONSENT to that?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

You're implying that a young woman consented to being anally penetrated in public by multiple men, because she "felt bad for them" while she was drunk?

You really think a woman would CONSENT to that?

No. I am not. I believe this girls was raped. But many girls binge drink with red bull and there is no indication to onlookers that she will not remember consenting in the morning.

Also... You may want to visit the explicit forum... Many people like to have Sex in public. Many women will bend over a table to have sex (and p.s. That does not mean it is a-sex, it could be v-sex).

Also, women consent to multiple sex partners all the time.

So... I do not think THIS woman consented to this sex act (as evidenced by the blunt force trama) but I do believe there are girls who do consent to this.

H&W tainted the evidence so badly there will never be a conviction.

Only police trained to investigate sex assaults should be involved.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

You're implying that a young woman consented to being anally penetrated in public by multiple men, because she "felt bad for them" while she was drunk?

You really think a woman would CONSENT to that?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

Anonymous wrote:This is an area where parents of girls need to have heightened concern - and don't judge me as sexist, but this is reality. Girls face a danger that boys just don't face.

I sure wouldn't want my son to choose one of the big Greek life schools, but I would absolutely prohibit my daughter from doing so.

Even if you aren't Catholic, many Catholic schools have no Greek life and offer a comparatively safe environment for your DD. Additionally, some schools are ahead of the curve are have eliminated Greek life altogether.

http://www.newsweek.com/inside-colleges-killed-frats-good-231346

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Anonymous wrote:Why do these girls engage in binge drinking, put themselves in compromising positions and then express outrage over a college adjuducation when they themselves don't even recall what they may have done while inebriated?

If you walk around wearing expensive jewelry in a high crime area, and someone steps up to you, knocks you over the head and robs you, you are indeed stupid, and you probably won't recall what happened to you. It doesn't make the robbery any less of a crime.

If you are drunk and give the expensive jewelry to a homeless person because you feel bad for him in your drunk state and the next morning you don't remember it ... that does not mean the homeless person stole from you.

So, if someone comes up to you and says "I was robbed last night," your response is going to be "are you sure you didn't get drunk and give your cash to a homeless person?"