I'd somehow let the spouse(s) know. That stuff is shady and nobody deserves to be put through something like that.

I may not be in the popular vote but I would somehow tell the spouse. Even through a letter. What a horrible thing they are doing to their spouses and their kids. I do understand your relucatance to get involved though, it puts you in a bad position.

My best friend made the mistake of getting involved with another dad in our school about 9 years ago, it blew up and was quite the scandal which seemed to last forever. As her friend I stood by her but it was hard as I did not approve of what she did. She ended up divorcing and marrying this guy but really did some damage to her husband, her kids and that other guys family. Things are good again but it was pure hell for all of them for awhile. No one should walk around while they spouse is out having sex with another person unknowing to them, that is really sad and a horrible thing to do to someone who you committed to.

I would have said hi. If you see her again, mention you saw her in x town with said guy. Casually.

I am all for telling the spouse that is being lied to, betrayed and cheated on. however you need some evidence to do so. If you had pics or videos then I would tell the spouse but without them, I would just let the cheaters know that you know.

Anonymous wrote:This is OP I am not saying a word. I just can't. Too many lives would be upended and I dont' need that guilt. But man, how can people live with the guilt knowing they have spouses and kids? Unreal at least to me. I so wish I never saw it, just have to work on erasing it from my mind.

Look on the bright side, they may be in open marriages

Seriously, OP, as these boards evidence daily, plenty of people are inconsiderate jerks.

MYOB. You have no idea what is going on with these people's marriages and (I assume from your post) you are not close friends with either them or their spouses so honestly, meddling is a bad idea.

send an anonymous note to the betrayed spouses with details that are irrefutable.

Anonymous wrote:Cam you blackmail them?

This is what I thought too. What's their HHI?

This is OP I am not saying a word. I just can't. Too many lives would be upended and I dont' need that guilt. But man, how can people live with the guilt knowing they have spouses and kids? Unreal at least to me. I so wish I never saw it, just have to work on erasing it from my mind.

I went to a quiet hole in the wall place once. I saw my cousin there with her boyfriend. She was married to her childhood sweetheart at this point for about 15 years and had two daughters. She was so shocked when she saw me. I did not say anything but years later she got caught by her husband.

Anonymous wrote:I would have stayed in my chair. And then said oh hi as they walked past me Arm and arm. But I wouldn't gossip. Its not fair to the kids.

+1. But I would totally tell DH!

I think if you tell, your kids will suffer the consequences. If it did not pose a risk for your children--and I am almost certain it would--I would alert the wife of the cheater. It is very sad.

I would have stayed in my chair. And then said oh hi as they walked past me Arm and arm. But I wouldn't gossip. Its not fair to the kids.

this dosen't concern you, -walk away.

Anonymous wrote:Forgot to add a point- one of the women I have become good friends with is very very good friends with this woman in question. Don't say anything right?

Depends, you need tuition money?

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Anonymous wrote:Boy, I think that even with what you saw you can't be positive about what's happening there...

I saw something sort of similar some time ago, although I think it was more subtle than this enthusiastic greeting that you saw. It was more of a look that they gave each other. No doubt in my own mind what I saw of course and what it meant. But, really...how do I really know what I saw? Maybe it was nothing...but certainly it was NONE of my business.

I am all for OP going the MYOB route, but you sound naive saying she can't be positive. Making out with someone else's spouse in public = cheating.

No, not naive. Op and I cross posted. I didn't see her post about seeing them actually making out. Yes, that's pretty damning evidence. Thankfully, Op doesn't really know them so she doesn't have to do a thing with it. Lucky, Op. Right?