Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 13:02     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
I bet the husband read the text to the MIL and left the phone with her. It time for a divorce. Husband can go sleep with his mother....
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:57     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.


Are you serious? Are you 80? I babysat twins when I was 13!


Babysitting for a few hours in the evening is not the same as being home alone all day.



And again...you are wrong. Teens are perfectly capable unless there is some issue with behavior or something a parent needs to worry about.


Sorry, you are wrong. There is a great deal of difference between being home all day and babysitting for a few hours.

Teens are capable... unless something happens that requires adult judgment. If you are OK with taking that risk, fine, but no way in hell is my daughter going to be home alone all day at that age.


Wow your DD is one lucky girl!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:47     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.


Are you serious? Are you 80? I babysat twins when I was 13!


Babysitting for a few hours in the evening is not the same as being home alone all day.



And again...you are wrong. Teens are perfectly capable unless there is some issue with behavior or something a parent needs to worry about.


Sorry, you are wrong. There is a great deal of difference between being home all day and babysitting for a few hours.

Teens are capable... unless something happens that requires adult judgment. If you are OK with taking that risk, fine, but no way in hell is my daughter going to be home alone all day at that age.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:44     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
No way could I take 3 more weeks of MIL after that, she would have to go go go right now,like yesterday. If your DH chooses lunatic fringe mom over you, you have a huge DH problem. Yikes.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:40     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.


Are you serious? Are you 80? I babysat twins when I was 13!


Babysitting for a few hours in the evening is not the same as being home alone all day.



And again...you are wrong. Teens are perfectly capable unless there is some issue with behavior or something a parent needs to worry about.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:36     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.


Are you serious? Are you 80? I babysat twins when I was 13!


Babysitting for a few hours in the evening is not the same as being home alone all day.

Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:34     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.


Are you serious? Are you 80? I babysat twins when I was 13!
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:32     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Why is a 13 year old girl allowed to be home alone? That wasn't acceptable when I was 13.
Anonymous
Post 07/14/2014 12:09     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
My inlaws drive me insane, I've given DH warning that his father is going to say something to set me off at some point. While he does defend them at times, I know without a shred of doubt that he would back me 100%. Your issue isn't your MIL, it's your DH. You need to send the kids to your parents for a week and spend time with your DH figuring it out.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 13:05     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
You all have so e serious boundary issues all across the board. This is NOT healthy.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2014 11:13     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Wait, why was the husband's phone at home? Was he home then?

Why doesn't he have a problem with his mother taking his phone, reading the texts, and sharing that info with the family?

I know you guys must be Indian/Asian. This is so Asian family dynamic.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2014 00:57     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:Sounds like DH married a woman like Mom. LOL!


...aaaaaand there's the MIL who swoops in to criticize every DIL on every MIL thread.
Anonymous
Post 07/08/2014 00:00     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Sounds like DH married a woman like Mom. LOL!
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2014 22:03     Subject: Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I understand wanting to know your child's plans for the day. However, your MIL hardly kidnapped her. When you say "stayed out all night", you clearly don't mean "ALL NIGHT." If I got home and my 13 year old was nowhere to be found and I couldn't get in touch with her, I would be calling the cops, not having a text message argument about it with my husband.

To me, it seems like you are making a big deal about something that is not the biggest deal ever. It sounds like you are frustrated by what you perceive as years of disrespect and are projecting that frustration onto this one situation. The result is that it looks like a big overreaction and your family thinks you're nuts.

You need to have a conversation with your husband about how you feel about his mom's behavior. It's about more than this one incident, and you should have a reasonable expectation that the conversations you have with your husband privately remain private. That said, there is really not a lot that can be done about the phone theft at this point. He got the phone back, and presumably when she said "LEAVE THAT CRAZY WOMAN", he told her no.


Wow. OP is the crazy one? Are you a current or future over attached mom to adult son? DH here with crazy mom and If my mom ever pulled that shit (reading a private convo and then taking my fucking phone?!) her ass would be on the street and it would be a long time and several apologies and other amends making before she set foot in our house again. That is absolutely unacceptable and horrible behavior. So many boundaries crossed I don't even know where to start

OP your momma's boy husband needs to nut up and back you on this. And you need to explain to your daughter in a calm emotionless manner that grandma has a personality disorder and until gma can show she understands and respects boundaries she won't be in contact with any of you.



+1. I agree with all of this.

Your MIL came to stir the pot, she stirred it, and now she gets to have her butt kicked out of the kitchen. You don't need this person in your house (though how to get her out of your marriage is obviously more complicated). She's trying to get under your skin and seems to want to break you guys up. Is there a long history of this sort of thing? Did she oppose your marriage?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2014 21:45     Subject: Re:Mil drama- now she told dh to leave me
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Agree with the PPs that you have a DH problem, not so much a psycho MIL problem. What I'm wondering is why your DH felt the need to tell you that his parents told him to leave you. Why did he feel the need to relay their rantings? Your DH needs a 'come to Jesus meeting' about his role in all this.


Because he was raised by MIL. He thinks all this is normal.


WTF? You have a serious DH problem! Get thy ass into counseling!