Anonymous wrote:in the time it took you to post this you could have had one card done.

While I posted this I exchanges 4 text messages with my friends.

I would be ok with email, but I am not a texter and would likely never see the text.

Anonymous wrote:in the time it took you to post this you could have had one card done.

But why on earth would she for such an informal get together?

in the time it took you to post this you could have had one card done.

Ita

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I'm a big believer in it's the thought that counts. Say thank you however you wish. Heartfelt is what matters, not format.

ITA

Anonymous wrote:Call me old-school, but sending invitations and RSVP's via text is just plain tacky.

Same for sending Thank You's.

Have we really thrown our good manners out the window already??!!

Your grammar is tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn't know that you could get a data plan that didn't include texting.

NP here. Not everybody has a data plan. Not everybody is in love with cell phones or needs data or texting. Some people just want 100 minutes/ month for emergencies. Do not assume everyone rolls exactly like you do (not you, PP).

Reading comprehension. Other pp specifically said s/he had a data plan but not a texting plan and would therefor rather get an email than a text.

But thank you notes go on PAPER. with a STAMP.

Reading comprehension- I never said she didn't have one. But I agree that thank-you notes are for paper only.

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

The party had 5 kids. We are super close and the whole deal was done through txt. RSVP invitations etc.
my plan was to do a short video of the kids playing with the toy saying thanks and blowing kisses. Sorry seems like half of my OP didnt post properly.

Thanks.

If you're sure that the families of those kids have the technology needed to see the video, I say do that. It's a very cute idea and I'd love it much more than any thank you note written on paper by a parent.

It's neither rude or tacky. Things change with time and so do etiquette rules. It was once considered normal to have spittoons - nowadays we are disgusted by the concept, and rightly so.

No one will ever be offended by receiving a written thank you note but some may be offended if you don't.

Agree with this. I don't keep track of who sends thank you notes and who doesn't, but my friend whose texted me a picture of her daughter holding the toy we gave her for her birthday along with a one word "Thanks!" struck me as super lazy.

No. Write a proper thank you note on paper and send it in the mail. No one will ever be offended by receiving a written thank you note but some may be offended if you don't.

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I'm a big believer in it's the thought that counts. Say thank you however you wish. Heartfelt is what matters, not format.

Agreed. Also, with such a small group, chances are you know whether there are any old fashioned, pearl- clutching, miss manners types. If there aren't, I say go ahead.