Anonymous wrote:You won't find anything about me online. I don't participate in social media except for a private facebook profile that 10 people have access to. You won't find references, previous jobs, nothing. Why? Because my life belongs to me and nobody else. Not because I have something to hide. If you meet me in person and ask me, I'll gladly tell you everything I feel like sharing about myself. It is SO horrible how everyone spreads their insides on the net these days...

Through Intelius or another background search, I could find your address, your spouse's name, anyone living in your house, and the names of your neighbors. I could also find any public records associated with you -- marriage, divorce, death, etc. I might be able to do a credit check on you. I would definitely be able to do a criminal background check.

You're not that invisible.

Jesus people. Dating at this age is hard enough without the judgement. How many of you are women actively dating online? It's a safety issue, period. And OP doesn't sound like she began having doubts after a google search, but rather when a guy feeling wasn't resolved by the nrml online crap most of us have.

OP, I hired a nanny when I had to go back to work and had the same experience that you describe. Seemed initially fine but made me uneasy as time passed, and when I tried to just get to know her more to quell the feelings, vagueosity ensued. I let her go. 3 dates is enough to be upfront with the guy; if you're not reassured, move on.