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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?

Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.

Huh? Where are these women? Do they actually ask for permission, as in "May I go to the movies?"

Or is it "Hey honey, so I was able to get out of work early and decided to go see Jaws 7 this afternoon. It was great. How was your day?" I'm married and have done that.

More like, "Is there anyway possible that I can get a couple hours to myself this week? I want to _____."

It's because the mom is often the default parent--I can't rely on DH to get home at a certain time to stay with the kids and don't feel like paying a sitter just to go watch a movie.

It should be important to both you and he that you get some time to yourself.

Women will always be the default parent if we accept that role.

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Anonymous wrote:Why wouldn't you tell your spouse? Do you have a desire to feel like you're a teenager and sneaking behind your parents' back?

Most married women that I know have to ask for and then justify any time they take for themselves. Even a couple hours for a movie. I applaud OP for not falling into that trap.