OP, are you a 24 year old interior designer by any chance?

I think it's weird that you went into his apartment when he wasn't there. That's creepy.

OP, as a guy, that sounds like a fantastic surprise and I would love to come home to that.

Some have said that it sounds like you're going over the top. Only you can really judge how much giving you're doing in the relationship and how much your needs are being taken care of.

As long as you feel it's equitable and you're not feeling resentful that you give so much and he doesn't seem to give back in the ways that are important to you, then go for it and enjoy it.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the frig stocking and laundry seems a little weird and overbiard. Dinner and sex perfect!

Really? I do his laundry because he absolutely hates it. He usually brings his laundry over and I do it over th weekend. He can sometimes be extremely busy and I've picked stuff up for him while I was out shopping for myself. He always seemed to appreciate it and a few times asked if I could.

You sound more like a combo hooker/maid than a girlfriend. Are you from another country/culture?

Hooker? PP, that sounds like someone from your country and culture!

Sounds perfect to me.

Don't forget the candles and the "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door. Lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh stop it people!

She sounds like a perfectly nice GF who wants to make her man happy.

What's so wrong with that?

I think the critical posters are envious. Who tears apart nice gestures?

Envious of what? OP has told us absolutely nothing about what her boyfriend does to reciprocate her (over-the-top) gestures of kindness. I'm certainly not envious of a woman who posts anonymously seeking validation for being her boyfriend's maid/cook/sub.

Anonymous wrote:Oh stop it people!

She sounds like a perfectly nice GF who wants to make her man happy.

What's so wrong with that?

I think the critical posters are envious. Who tears apart nice gestures?

Oh stop it people!

She sounds like a perfectly nice GF who wants to make her man happy.

What's so wrong with that?

Anonymous wrote:Smart to live apart .

True, but not smart to do laundry and cleaning for him!

Sounds like you're on the fast-track to doormat. I imagine we'll see you back here in a few years complaining about how your husband does jack to help around the house and with the kids and you have no idea how this happened. Newsflash: this is how it happens.

Anonymous wrote:So if you marry, you are prepared to do all of the childcare and work around the house while he rests over the weekend, right? Because that's what you're setting up.

+1

You say he does a lot for you. What exactly?

OP here. Some of these comments are brutal. No I not from a different culture, we make about the same level of pay ( h is a few grand over me) and I
not desperate. I've always been the type to take care of someone. I love doing it. It's not all one-sided and he has done a lot more for me than I have for him. Also I do not do this type of treatment all the time. This is the second weekend so far. He loved it! I know the stocking the fridge and doing laundry aren't required and sex and dinner would be enough but, he works up to 90 hour weeks at times. I don't want him to have to stress out about the little things.

So if you marry, you are prepared to do all of the childcare and work around the house while he rests over the weekend, right? Because that's what you're setting up.

I bet he makes a lot more money than you. Am I right?

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah, the frig stocking and laundry seems a little weird and overbiard. Dinner and sex perfect!

Really? I do his laundry because he absolutely hates it. He usually brings his laundry over and I do it over th weekend. He can sometimes be extremely busy and I've picked stuff up for him while I was out shopping for myself. He always seemed to appreciate it and a few times asked if I could.

You sound more like a combo hooker/maid than a girlfriend. Are you from another country/culture?