Anonymous wrote:Nobody at my white, upper-middle class kid's DMV-area public school suggested DC should attend an Ivy, either. The counselor didn't stand in DC's way and presumably wrote a decent rec, because DC got in.
I get the impression that the default, for a lot of area public and private school counselors, is public universities and 2nd-tier privates. Perhaps this comes from unfamiliarity, because we saw some cluelessness wrt the Ivy's language and math requirements. Another issue may be trying to lower expectations: DC's friends at a Big 3 talk about being steered away from Ivies, perhaps because of the intense competition from classmates. Perhaps, also, counselors assume that most families want to max out merit aid, so maybe it's not all coming from a bad place.
Anonymous wrote:That's why I homeschool. I don't want my kid in a box.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:That's why I homeschool. I don't want my kid in a box.
But they will be in a box. The "home-school-ed" box.
And "boxed in" from any outside influences - it's like the opposite of getting positive exposure - it's getting none at all.
Home schoolers today have a huge network and many opportunities to socialize.
Anonymous wrote:I read the article earlier today and was trying to make sense of why the teaching methods are so different and it hit me that it has to do with student preparedness rather than a system that is trying to keep everyone in their SES place. If the student body is not prepared and doesn't have family support then the teachers and school will have to work to meet the needs of that population. They can't ask unprepared children to contemplate higher level thinking activities when the kids don't understand the basics. The teachers need to instill tight discipline as many of these kids don't have good role models at home and are more likely to act out.
On the other side, the super wealthy have generally speaking very well prepared children. If a child struggles in an area, the parents generally have the education to help their children or hire tutors. The teachers therefore are teaching to kids that have a solid foundation and are building upon the higher level foundation that the kids already have.
A good analogy is the difference between taking calculus class and an applied engineering class. In the calculus class you are learning the basics. In the engineering class, you learn the why. However, you can not understand the why before you understand the basics. Unfortunately for schools that serve poor children, they can never get past the basics.