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Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

Sounds like a promising young psychopath you're raising. Have fun visiting him in prison!

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Really? You're nuts. The kid is a TODDLER. Anyone who says their toddler HASN'T hit is lying. Now, if your 5 year old did it, that's another story.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

Sounds like a promising young psychopath you're raising. Have fun visiting him in prison!

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Anonymous wrote:I know this is for all intents and purposes a retaliative thread in response to the one about black moms and hitting, but if I may be so bold and inject some seriousness into the discussion...

In my observation of white mothers while I can't say with a straight face that I constantly see them getting beat up and cursed out by their kids, I can say in all seriousness that from my observations white mothers seem to be incredibly lenient when it comes to their children.
To me, white mothers seem far more dismissive of deliberate acts of defiance and disrespect than women of other races and also white mothers seem far more indifferent of inappropriate behavior than women of other races.
When I stopped to think about my observations and the impressions that I have as a result it initially confounded me because I've seen this kind of blasé attitude from white moms of various backgrounds - those from the east coast and west coast in the north and south those that are rich those that are poor those that are catholic those that are protestant...didn't matter. I was totally stumped. Why...why...why...and then finally it hit me and all I could do was laugh because the answer was so simple.

White privilege.

That shit starts from birth lol. Mommy indoctrinates her infants from jump and gets them geared toward that proud pale mindset that they are irreproachable and exempt from any and all accountability.

Anonymous wrote:I'm Black(medium-well), and I was raised by my dad and "Spare not the rod" stepmother, the latter who beat me in the name of Jesus with any and everything she could get her hands on. At 8yo I got the courage to jump and punch her in the face. Fast forward 22 years I still have no regrets about doing that. Anyway, I can't imagine why would someone physically harm a person that they claim to love. Also, raising a young AA child I don't want him to get the impression that it is ok to attack someone that you felt has commited an infraction. What type of example would I be setting by beating him?

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jsteele wrote:Careful OP, I have blood on my hands and I'm not afraid to use them.

Ha!

I'm not the OP, but what does this mean….? This thread seems to have been derailed and turned in to a weird zombie post rather than answering the OP's question - not that I give her post too much credit since I think it's a bit out of touch - bad parenting is something that happens in every race….but, did I miss something with Jeff's response?

It's a reference to a thread in another forum about the shooting at the National Zoo.

FINALLY someone gets it. Just flipping the script here! http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/379359.page

sat·ire
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noun
1. the use of humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people's stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.

I think most posters got it...

Indeed. Mostly because it isn't very good satire.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

Sounds like a promising young psychopath you're raising. Have fun visiting him in prison!

Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

That is abuse. Not discipline.

Anonymous wrote:I prefer to be called Beige, not "white". Get your terms right OP

Anonymous wrote:I'm a white mom and my toddler has slapped me. He goes in time out. Hitting a child is only reinforcing violence, not detering it. My parents beat the crap out of me. I feared them. I'm not doing that to my children.

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jsteele wrote:Careful OP, I have blood on my hands and I'm not afraid to use them.

Ha!

I'm not the OP, but what does this mean….? This thread seems to have been derailed and turned in to a weird zombie post rather than answering the OP's question - not that I give her post too much credit since I think it's a bit out of touch - bad parenting is something that happens in every race….but, did I miss something with Jeff's response?

It's a reference to a thread in another forum about the shooting at the National Zoo.

FINALLY someone gets it. Just flipping the script here! http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/379359.page

sat·ire
?sa?t?r/Submit
noun
1. the use of humor, irony, exaggeration, or ridicule to expose and criticize people's stupidity or vices, particularly in the context of contemporary politics and other topical issues.

I think most posters got it...

Anonymous wrote:I think it's more a cultural or regional thing. White southerners are far stricter and hold their kids to higher standards of decorum to NE white people. They are more likely to spank their kids. I grew up in both regions and as a kid noticed a huge difference. African Americans tend to have southern roots. It's the same culture in many ways.

I'm not in favor of hitting kids in any way. But I do think a lot of times African American kids are nicer to their elders than white kids in this city. Even putting aside spanking, I think African American parents are just not as likely to put up with insolence, poor behavior, rolling eyes, etc.

And I'm white, FYI.

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jsteele wrote:Careful OP, I have blood on my hands and I'm not afraid to use them.

In, Jeff. Blood in your hands. Just like all living creatures.

Unless he's a zombie. We all must be vigilant against zombies. Its only a matter of time.