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Anonymous wrote:2 years. The sooner the better if he marries someone who will function like a good mother to my children. They need a mom.

A step mom is not a mom.

You know what I mean. Don't be so difficult.

And don't marry my widowed husband. The kids need more joy in their lives.

Does everyone assume their spouse is so horney that he can't remain single?
Have some self esteem, your spouse should feel you are irreplaceable.

I had a relative, a man, who remarried fairly quickly after the death of his wife, like 1-2 years or something. I think he just needed a woman, he needed someone to cook, run the house, etc. He was a high-level executive. I'm sure he didn't want to be alone.

His wife had been dying for a long time so he knew it was coming and had time to prepare. I think for spouses of people who die suddenly it might take them longer. Everyone is different though.

This is similar to my dad. He started dating soon after my mom died and was married within two years. He is a man who just really appreciates the companionship of a wife, and while in some ways it was hard to see him move on so quickly, in others it was a testament to how much he valued marriage and the sort of partnership he had had with my mom. My siblings and I were all supportive.

He had nursed my mother through four bad years of illness, which I think did make him more ready to move on.

I'm 34, and live having my life with DH and our two kids. I would want a DH to grow old with, so, I would move to make that happen. DH says it's something he can't think about but I give us both 2 yrs if we meet somebody and our kids were happy.

I've asked DH to move new wifey in and live jointly with his folks. My biggest fear is having my children not being loved and taken care of unconditionally. I like the idea of the grandparents "keeping an eye"

Anonymous wrote:2 years. The sooner the better if he marries someone who will function like a good mother to my children. They need a mom.

A step mom is not a mom.

I would hope never, you marry and choose to be with someone. If they die, you wait to be together in eternal life.

The widow/er should focus on the children, not boning someone,

I would never remarry. Don't like men that much. No, really it is the sex thing, don't want it.

I've done my fair of thinking about this as my mom died when she was 57, and my dad remarried fairly quickly. (Older generation where husband made all the money and the wife took care of the household definitely played a factor in this, as my dad didn't even seem to know there was a lint tray in the dryer.)

Given that i am 7 days away from my scheduled c-section w/ DC#2, I think it would take more than 2 years for DH to get his equilibrium and even start dating. We have an older nanny, who has become like a grandmother to our DD. He would increase her hours. Fortunately, I have enough life insurance, so he'd be able to pay off he remainder of our $1.3 M house and still have some savings to pay for the increase in childcare costs until they are both in kindergarten. We also have about $1M in retirement and he has a decent salary (although I out earn him) so i think it would be attractive to many single women. Plus at 39, DH is 6'3", is naturally thin/fit, and has all his hair.

Since we've been together (9 yrs), i've taught him to cook and he does more than his share of household chores. Plus he's a wonderful dad. So once he started looking he should have no trouble. Plus since my oldest child is only 2.5 yrs old, it might be easier for a "new mom" to come in and replace me.

That said, I plan to live as long as I can b/c I want to be there for all the major milestones my mom missed w/ her kids.

Anonymous wrote:I would guess within 3 years.

+1! That's the statistical average after divorce, anyway. I'd want DH to find someone who'd be kind to him and my kids and live happily ever after (as much as is possible, anyway).

She would be snapped up very quickly due to being incredibly easy to talk to and non-judgmental. Me, on the other hand would not even consider dating - too many games. But if the right person came along (through work, friends, etc.), I would be open to the possibility of trying again. We once had that discussion and she thinks I would remarry within two years but she is way more optimistic about my prospects than I am.

It would take DH awhile (as it would me) but I'd hope he found someone else to love and marry again. Would want him to be happy and in a steady relationship and I'd like DS to have a mother in his life.

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I have no idea, but if he does remarry I want him to have a prenump that protects our kids' college fund/other assets.

Anonymous wrote:I expect that he would marry the person that he is currently having an affair with, so... 6 -12 months at the outside.

I'm sorry.

I expect that he would marry the person that he is currently having an affair with, so... 6 -12 months at the outside.