I loved my MIL very much. She died 8 years ago and I think about her almost every day. The rest of the family is wonderful as well. They're different from my small, close, Jewish family - they're more "love from a distance" types which is hard for me sometimes. But they've been lovely to me for the most part, and I married into 12 nieces and nephews who I adore. I'm only 39 but because my husband is older than I am I am about to become a great-aunt for the first time!!

Anonymous wrote:I love my ex in-laws...just not the ex.

I suggest you listen to Fred Eaglesmith- How's Ernie?

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Anonymous wrote:Hate them. If I had known them better before the wedding, I would have married a different guy.

Do you it's possible that if you hate ALL your in-laws, then the problem might be you, more than it might be them?

Sorry, let me clarify for you. I hate my mil and fil.
No not possible because I got along with and still do all of my ex fiancées inlaws. My inlaws now do not get along with any of the new family.
So yep it's them, not us.

I love my ex in-laws...just not the ex.

I like mine over the phone more than in person. Only because I'm not used to people telling me what to do or get in my business. I share when I feel like it. And I like my MIL because she raised a good son BUT he takes her worrisome thoughts. Constant worrying about stuff. I'm a laid back, peace on earth kinda gal.

I love mine. She doesn't butt into our business.

You guys are sooooo lucky!!! I get along with pretty much everyone but I completely struck out in the in-law department. They are a dysfunctional mess - and not in a funny way - in a really, horrible tragic way - alcoholism, drug abuse, untreated depression, horrible with finances, entitled, etc. I truly do not know how my husband came out of that family relatively unscathed. I did not recognize the seriousness of the issues before we got married. I think they were all on their best behavior around me for a long time. I detest the stress that the in-laws place on my husband, and in turn, my family. If I could completely cut them out of our lives, I would. In fact, we are pretty close to doing just that. Luckily, my family is awesome. My husband even comments on how he is so much closer to my family than his family, and wants our children to be exposed to my side of the family as much as possible. I so wish I had a functional set of in-laws.

I like 'em fine -- because they live far away and we never see 'em.

I adore my in laws. They are gracious, kind, generous, loving people who raised a wonderful son and I am grateful for that. They are also super grandparents to our kids. I hope to be like them when I grow up.

Love mine, really sorry my MIL died. Don't like crazy loser BIL but we don't see him.

Nope. I don't hate my MIL like others on this board, but the best thing I ever did was call her out on her game playing in front of my husband. I wish I had done it sooner. Now I am down to seeing her about 4 times a year for part of an afternoon. She lives about 40 minutes away from us so if I wanted to see her more, we would. But for Thanksgiving, Christmas, her birthday, and her grandchild's birthday, I leave the planning of visits with her up to my husband.

I like my in-laws better than my own parents.

Anonymous wrote:Hate them. If I had known them better before the wedding, I would have married a different guy.

Do you it's possible that if you hate ALL your in-laws, then the problem might be you, more than it might be them?

I love my in laws, too. We don't have kids, which probably makes things easier - they are extremely loving grandparents, but intense in a way that makes my husband's brother and his wife upset sometimes. We live about five hours away from them, see them a bunch of times every year. They're loving, generous, and welcomed me into the family from the first time they met me.

Do I have complaints? Sure. Do I love staying a week at a time, like over Xmas? Surely not. (Did I love this past Xmas when my very very sick MIL still insisted on cooking up a storm....It made this germ-phobe super unhappy, it did.)

But, not to sound like some kind of pollyanna, I still feel like I hit the parents in law jackpot.

I love mine. I wish they were younger because they are the kindest people I have ever met. I am so lucky.