Anonymous wrote:What I don't understand is why people always side with the QB.

Anonymous wrote:Parents of older kids, please tell me that middle school changes up the dynamic. Everyone else is dreading MS because our MS is huge and then there are the hormones. I say GREAT. I'm glad MS is big, and I'm glad parents aren't welcome in the same way they are in ES. This idea that the "kid will pay the price" is insane, but I've seen some crazy QB / PTA shit in our school, so I know it's plausible.

Some people need to go back to work or get a hobby that keeps them out of their kids' schools.

Anonymous wrote:Parents of older kids, please tell me that middle school changes up the dynamic. Everyone else is dreading MS because our MS is huge and then there are the hormones. I say GREAT. I'm glad MS is big, and I'm glad parents aren't welcome in the same way they are in ES. This idea that the "kid will pay the price" is insane, but I've seen some crazy QB / PTA shit in our school, so I know it's plausible.

Some people need to go back to work or get a hobby that keeps them out of their kids' schools.

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Anonymous wrote:Ignore the QB all of the time and push back - HARD - when/if she ever says anything negative about your child.

Moms, let's not give our power away! That is more important for your daughter to see than you "pretending" to be "nice" and actually be a doormat for an aggressive, nasty QB. Teach your daughters to stand up for themselves by…standing up for yourself. I've done this with a group of QB types at my children's school and you know what, now, THEY kowtow to me. They are the ones who walk on eggshells around me (after all, they KNOW I'll call out any bullish#%!).

Claim and demand your own position. If you don't, you are choosing to be a doormat and you are, in fact, allowing the QB baloney to continue.

That said, you have to be strong to do this. You have to go into it not caring if they "like" you or think you are "nice" in the end. Truth is they aren't in it for "liking" or for "niceness", so you've got nothing to lose.

I tried that a few years ago. DS's playdates dried up, and most of the mutual mom acquaintances went to the QB's side. Whatever you do, the QB will twist it so that you look like the nutjob and make sure every other mom knows her version of the story.

Do I care? No. I have a pretty demanding job, kids with busy schedules, and no time in my day for petty school dramas. But just know that it doesn't always get better if you stand up to the QBs.

Anonymous wrote:Ignore the QB all of the time and push back - HARD - when/if she ever says anything negative about your child.

Moms, let's not give our power away! That is more important for your daughter to see than you "pretending" to be "nice" and actually be a doormat for an aggressive, nasty QB. Teach your daughters to stand up for themselves by…standing up for yourself. I've done this with a group of QB types at my children's school and you know what, now, THEY kowtow to me. They are the ones who walk on eggshells around me (after all, they KNOW I'll call out any bullish#%!).

Claim and demand your own position. If you don't, you are choosing to be a doormat and you are, in fact, allowing the QB baloney to continue.

That said, you have to be strong to do this. You have to go into it not caring if they "like" you or think you are "nice" in the end. Truth is they aren't in it for "liking" or for "niceness", so you've got nothing to lose.

Anonymous wrote:Of course you will pay the price and so will your DD. I hate QB moms.

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Anonymous wrote:QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

Is the school GDS? Are you talking about me?

I would respond with "did you just say that out loud"?

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Anonymous wrote:QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

Is the school GDS? Are you talking about me?

Anonymous wrote:QBM instructing me on how to run school fundraiser but things went in different direction (what she wanted unavailable). Over past four years, she has made numerous snide remarks about my child (implying that she's not too bright) so I'm not a fan of QBM but try to avoid any conflict or hint of conflict. This time, exasperated, told her I couldn't redo plans but she was welcome to take over. Now gives me silent treatment. Do not care about being friends with her, but she and her kid cannot be avoided. How did you manage being ostracized by QBM?

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Anonymous wrote:Any adult who uses the term queen bee gets what she deserves. It is a silly term that kids might use but no self-respecting adult should be describing other adults as queen bees.

What is your preferred moniker?

Anonymous wrote:Any adult who uses the term queen bee gets what she deserves. It is a silly term that kids might use but no self-respecting adult should be describing other adults as queen bees.

Anonymous wrote:Any adult who uses the term queen bee gets what she deserves. It is a silly term that kids might use but no self-respecting adult should be describing other adults as queen bees.