OP, I get what you are trying to say about feeling awkward that maybe she is reciprocating out of obligation. If it were me, I think I would call, email or send a card next year instead of sending a gift, treating the one-year-old birthday gift in my mind as an isolated "milestone birthday" gift. (Of course, then, she'll probably send your DD an elaborate gift and card...! ha! )

And why would she pay to have it wrapped? I never pay to have it wrapped if I send online. Opening a box you receive on your doorstep is fun and surprising in and of itself. No extra wrapping needed!

Anonymous wrote:It may be that she felt she needed to send your DD a gift this year because you had sent her DS something on his birthday.
Perhaps otherwise she would have emailed or sent a card, as she had in prior years, before she had her own child.
It wouldn't occur to me to get upset about how a gift was presented or delivered, and your kids would never notice unless they were picking up on your feelings.
I send Amazon gifts all the time, and if she's new to this, she may not have noticed the option to gift wrap or write a note.
It was thoughtful of her to send a gift - life is way to short to not let this go immediately, take a deep breath and enjoy the day.

OP, you're way overthinking this. She sent your kid a gift! She forgot or didn't notice the place where you can add a note! I've sent online gifts before, people always appreciated it.

Anonymous wrote:She sent a gift. How very nice of her. End of story.

Have your kids who can read and write send a thank you note.
Model gratitude and good manners to your kid.

You were kind to send a gift and it sounds like you packaged it appropriately. If you don't plan to send another as punishment for her not sending gifts as well as you do, it sounds like you send a card, but not love. It isn't sincere.

You have an opportunity to be a good person here.
It is up to you whether or not you take it.

She gets a C and you get an A, but you both get a "needs improvement" for understanding the reason gifts are sent.

Have you heard the expression "Love doesn't keep score?"

She sent a gift. How very nice of her. End of story.

Yes, way too much. Let it go. Plenty of people are clueless about Amazon. And the 'gift wrap' is a colored cardboard box with a ribbon so gift wrap isn't really worth the $4 either

I order almost all gifts from amazon. Sometimes gift options aren't available. When gift options are available, I usually just include a message because I think 3.99 for amazon gift wrap is dumb. None of this means that I am sending the gift out if a sense of obligation.

Focus on the fact that she sent a gift, not how or when it was sent, and try not to read into her motives.

OP, YES you are reading to much into this. ZOMG.