Anonymous
01/07/2014 00:17
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
OP here, how else does one get pregnant? Shall I be explicit here? Oops I can't it's the non-explicit forum. We have talked about getting the family together, but it's no way his mom would leave. We've tried to get her to move in with a girlfriend and that didn't work from either side. While I love her as my MIL and grandmother to our kids it's just no way it can work out. DH is her everything and vise versa, just not mine.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 16:21
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
OP it sounds to me like you two still can reconcile and have a good relationship. It wouldn't hurt to see how it goes, esp since you didn't divorce over personal issues in the marriage.
Btw, I don't think you are some stupid whore the way pps are making you out to be. You are financially stable, and co parent well with your ex. You will be fine.
Btw, I don't think you are some stupid whore the way pps are making you out to be. You are financially stable, and co parent well with your ex. You will be fine.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 14:37
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Curious - how did you get pregnant?
Anonymous
01/06/2014 14:31
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Some of you people are frightening
Anonymous
01/06/2014 12:17
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Seriously, you are blaming your divorce on your husband being an only child. Wowsers. Have you thought about therapy?
Not OP but urging you to STFU. You have no idea what went on in their marriage. At least they're successful co-parents.
I know what she said, dear, which is that the problem may be due to her husband being an only child. Seems like an oversimplification to me.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 12:13
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Seriously, you are blaming your divorce on your husband being an only child. Wowsers. Have you thought about therapy?
Not OP but urging you to STFU. You have no idea what went on in their marriage. At least they're successful co-parents.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 12:11
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Seriously, you are blaming your divorce on your husband being an only child. Wowsers. Have you thought about therapy?
Anonymous
01/06/2014 12:10
Subject: Re:Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:I don't know why others are beating up on you. I understand why you would hang out with an ex if he's not really done you wrong and is a good father. It sucks to have an unplanned pregnancy but understand why you're keeping it. It would totally suck, though, having to tell you parents and friends. I think THAT would be much hard than suffering through another pregnancy! Good luck to you and your family!
Hang out? Or sleep with minus birth control? Presumably there are reasons why they divorced in the first place, especially given that they had three kids under 10. If it was really over the MIL moving in, well, it doesn't seem like they're both really such great parents despite OP's description. Sheesh.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 11:42
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:I would divorce my husband if his mother moved in. She is not ill intended, but is annoying as shit. When you marry someone you don't expect his mommy to move in too.
I would have, too. No roof is big enough for the two of us under it.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 08:48
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
An attached MIL suite or (better yet) guest house would be the ideal solution - if you can afford it. It would give everyone a sense of privacy and their own personal space. It would be awful to be right on top of each other all of the time...that would get OLD in a hurry.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 06:57
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
I would divorce my husband if his mother moved in. She is not ill intended, but is annoying as shit. When you marry someone you don't expect his mommy to move in too.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 06:56
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Wow, you divorced over this? It doesn't even sound like she was toxic or ill-intentioned.
Meh, some grown women prefer to be the queen of their own castles, they don't want to step aside and let some other woman (even a well intentioned mom/MIL) take over. The fact that MIL allowed her presence to drive a wedge between this couple (leading to a divorce!) indicates that MIL's reasons for helping the family out weren't entirely altruistic.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 06:42
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Wow, you divorced over this? It doesn't even sound like she was toxic or ill-intentioned.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 02:55
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.
The bedroom my MIL stayed in was off our kitchen. It's kind of hard trying to have another women doing your duties although at times it helped. But it was getting to the point that it wasn't my home anymore. I hated for her to go in our room for anything. I don't need you to wash our clothes and make our bed. Stick with doing things for the kids. At times she would criticize what I fix the kids for dinner, when they have been eating these things before she moved in. DH is the only child and this may be the problem.
Anonymous
01/06/2014 00:15
Subject: Pregnant by ex-DH
Anonymous wrote:OP here, hoe I am not and I know about birth control. Having another child doesn't make or break me, however the situation could better. My family and friends may think I'm crazy but our divorce was because of my MIL. He moved her in and I couldn't take it any longer.
Hugs to you. I think there is hope for your family. I can understand your situation...don't try and solve everything at once. Sometime life and time will make your path clear to you and these things resolve by presenting solutions to you.
Have you thought about buying a house with an attached MIL suite?
Right now concentrate on being healthy and having a healthy baby.