Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 15:22     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:If you got that drunk at your age, you may want to consider you have an issue with alcohol. You were in the wrong and personally I don't find any of your behavior amusing.


+1


+2... And I say this as a 35 year old woman who got rip-roaring drunk on NYE, and spent all New Year's Day contemplating that I DO have a problem with alcohol. I get really drunk about once every couple of years, but for me, even that is too much. Scares me that I lost control, even just once. I'm too old for this shit. OP, take a good hard look in the mirror and ask whether alcohol has a net positive or negative impact on your life.

Oh, and for your friend - I think a quick, terse note apologizing for your behavior and thanking him for keeping a clear head would be appropriate. Then focus your energy on your DH. Would he REALLY not care if you cheated? I partly wonder if your drunk self was trying to test whether your DH actually cares about you.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 14:55     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:If you got that drunk at your age, you may want to consider you have an issue with alcohol. You were in the wrong and personally I don't find any of your behavior amusing.


+1
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 14:27     Subject: Would you apologize?
Your husband laughed about you, his wife, attempting to cheat on him? I would forget about the crush and think about your marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:50     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


The same poster again who gives this stupid advice trying to be sarcastic and funny. So annoying.


I think it's funny.


Even if you think the OP is doing something stupid and reckless this answer is not helpful and I don't find it "funny" to intentionally give bad advice to someone who needs help.


If OP took this advice seriously she's beyond help.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:12     Subject: Would you apologize?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vt2i0ts-uck
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:05     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


The same poster again who gives this stupid advice trying to be sarcastic and funny. So annoying.


I think it's funny.


Even if you think the OP is doing something stupid and reckless this answer is not helpful and I don't find it "funny" to intentionally give bad advice to someone who needs help.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 13:03     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


The same poster again who gives this stupid advice trying to be sarcastic and funny. So annoying.


I think it's funny.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:56     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


The same poster again who gives this stupid advice trying to be sarcastic and funny. So annoying.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:48     Subject: Re:Would you apologize?
She tries to get physical with another man at a party where her DH is passed out. If the man had not refused her advances, she likely would have fucked the guy or given him a BJ. Ok - crisis averted. However, she comes in here and instead of asking how she can make things right with her DH - she asks us how she can make things less awkward with the guy she tried to hump. Really? LOL! THAT is the issue she takes from this incident? LOL!!


Totally agree. You need to think more of your own behavior and the impact it has on your marriage.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:46     Subject: Re:Would you apologize?
I knew a girl like you OP in high school and often wondered if she ever grew up. Now I know.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 12:22     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:Your primary concern is apologizing to your friend again and not your DH? Bizarre.

Do not apologize to your friend. If anything, you should thank him. Just drop it.


Actually, the thanking him idea is great. Shows that you do not want him and that you are glad you didn't cheat on your husband. Makes you look less desperate and more respectful of your husband.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 11:40     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:lol I should have seen the harshness coming. Is everyone here so perfect? Did you guys stop getting drunk at 22? Never done something you regret? I got drunk on NYE like a large percentage of the adult population. Big deal. What about getting drunk one night says I have a problem with alcohol? Prior to that night I can't recall my last truly drunk night.

Thanks to those who answered decently. I too was worried an apology might make things more awkward or that i was using it as excuse to communicate unnecessarily. To the rest of you who are so worried about my DH and my friends, get your heads out of your asses. Of course my marriage isn't happy and perfect. My DH and I are completely open with each other about everything. I know who his little crushes are, he knows mine. Well my one and only. Our mutual friend who lives 4 hours a way and we see every couple months at best. While there might be many things in my life that would indicate therapy, this isn't one of them.


You think people are being harsh because you drank a bit too much? Maybe because you were "rip roaring drunk". Or because you made a pass at a man to whom you aren't married. And you don't seem concerned about that, or your husband's feelings. Only about the man whom you tried to kiss. You would have done more, obviously.

I may do things I regret, but certainly nothing of this caliber.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 11:37     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:As a man, I'm not sure if I would laugh off my wife admitting to a "crush" on another man and then trying to make it physical. Alcohol changes thresholds of inhibition, not the underlying feelings. From the male perspective, I might interpret what happened as your true desire. Maybe I'm insecure compared to others, maybe not.


Agree 100% with the underlined comment.

As a woman, I'm not sure I'd 'laugh off' a crush, either. And I sure as hell wouldn't be laughing if my husband tried to kiss another woman.

Having a cocktail or two too many is one thing, but getting "rip roarin drunk" is quite another. Sounds like there are quite a few issues at play. I find it disturbing that you want to apologize to your friend more than your husband.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 11:35     Subject: Would you apologize?
Your primary concern is apologizing to your friend again and not your DH? Bizarre.

Do not apologize to your friend. If anything, you should thank him. Just drop it.
Anonymous
Post 01/03/2014 11:31     Subject: Would you apologize?
Anonymous wrote:These conflicted feelings are your subconscious telling you the friend could be your real soulmate, more so than your husband. A period of intimate relations could help determine whether this is so.


LOL!