Anonymous wrote:PP your girlfriends don't envy you - they are all laughing about you and the goat doing it so you can have new shoes. What's the matter? IQ too low to make your own money? Sounds like you come from Dundalk. Thank goodness that's not in our bloodline.

I doubt they are laughing at her as birds of a feather flock together. They probably all think the same and compete with each other.

Did some DH marry his DW for money or earning capacity?

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Anonymous wrote:No. That would make him an appreciating asset and me a depreciating one. And the chances of that enduring are very low.

thats the way it is generally no matter what

in what world? you think balding and potbellies are appreciating assets to women? have you read all of the men complaining about sexless marriages? doesn't sound like your theory rings true.

i have no sympathy for men who dont take care of themselves or make themselves as attractive as possible at all times.

none

and i'm a man

so whatever they are complaining about - who cares - its their own fault. it always is.

but there is no doubt that a man's financial picture tends to improve with age so long as he works at it

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Anonymous wrote:No. That would make him an appreciating asset and me a depreciating one. And the chances of that enduring are very low.

thats the way it is generally no matter what

in what world? you think balding and potbellies are appreciating assets to women? have you read all of the men complaining about sexless marriages? doesn't sound like your theory rings true.

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say I married for money but I probably would not have married him at the time without the money. It made him much more attractive. I married him at 25, he was 35 then. 5 years and 2 kids later all has worked out. I'm a Sahm and we have a great life.

You have nothing to worry about for 10 years.

I wouldn't say I married for money but I probably would not have married him at the time without the money. It made him much more attractive. I married him at 25, he was 35 then. 5 years and 2 kids later all has worked out. I'm a Sahm and we have a great life.

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Anonymous wrote:No. That would make him an appreciating asset and me a depreciating one. And the chances of that enduring are very low.

thats the way it is generally no matter what

But if his big contribution is money, and yours presumably is attractiveness, you know how that will end. If you have an underlying friendship, respect each other, get along, share values and are committee to your family, it likely will end well. Money and looks are not the stable underpinnings of a successful marriage.

Right. But is she marries for money and he looks. She expires and he trades in for a newer model.

Its much better to marry for love and ambition and grow together.

Two very successful men at my work in their 40s have recently left their families. One has created scandal and is shacked up with 22yr old former nanny in his neighborhood. His wife is humiliated, but I don't feel that bad, she was a gold digger and should have known the score once her time was up.

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Anonymous wrote:No. That would make him an appreciating asset and me a depreciating one. And the chances of that enduring are very low.

thats the way it is generally no matter what

But if his big contribution is money, and yours presumably is attractiveness, you know how that will end. If you have an underlying friendship, respect each other, get along, share values and are committee to your family, it likely will end well. Money and looks are not the stable underpinnings of a successful marriage.

I dated generous men in school to help pay for tuition but married my middle-income DH for love. We've been together for 10 years and adore each other.

I had a friend who went to art school and honestly truly always saw herself with artistic creative types, but always ended up with investment bankers ... a little bit to her chagrin. She has had all the trappings of a nice life without ever really going after them. Other friends married successful men ... for love ... without undue attention on primping or working out or being hot. And I know many women who are successful in their own right who clearly valued money and married equally or more successful men. Of course, money is a big factor. But marrying FOR money seems a somewhat outdated concept in this day and age among highly educated professionals where we can both go after our own earnings. Don't see many men in my affluent hood who are married to hot young things with no earnings power of their own.

Now that I'm older, I wish I could have been the type to marry for money, or at least to have been sensible enough to make it an important part of what made me choose a husband. I was always impractical and overly passionate. In middle age I find myself calmer and less blinded by passion, but now I am stuck with my impractical, no-money dud of a man. To be fair, I know I couldn't have been any different. I do think people who marry for money work for every penny of it. I'd be willing to take on that job at this point in my life. Too bad I'm past my sell-by date.

PP your girlfriends don't envy you - they are all laughing about you and the goat doing it so you can have new shoes. What's the matter? IQ too low to make your own money? Sounds like you come from Dundalk. Thank goodness that's not in our bloodline.

Anonymous wrote:I married for money. I don't mind too much if he screws someone else here or there - my issue will be if he starts trying to lavish money on a mistress or divorce me.

I'm not saying it's a perfect marriage, but we're happy. I give him good sex, keep a clean and pretty home, and always greet him with a smile and a kiss when he comes home from work. I look great on his arm at office parties, like a trophy. And I get to buy all the things I want and my girlfriends envy me. It works out.

I am a guy and this sounds great to me.

A smile and kiss from work? A clean and pretty home? Good sex? Attractive?

Sign me up

Anonymous wrote:No. That would make him an appreciating asset and me a depreciating one. And the chances of that enduring are very low.

thats the way it is generally no matter what

Anonymous wrote:Honestly marriage for love is not all that it is chalked up to be. I wish I had married for money. Nothing wrong with my relationship. Husband and I are fine - but love fade and companionship remains. I wish we had money in the mix.

Lol. This. I wish I did marry for money!