For a best friend in the area, I do something for them, whether coffee, dinner or spa. For best friends who live far, I text them a happy birthday message. The only people who get calls are the older generation who don't know how to text.

Anonymous wrote:I disagree on my birthday a few months ago got calls from family AND friends. Guess I am one of the lucky ones..think this is common so if you dont have friends calling you on your birthday, you need to take a look at the kind of friend you are.

OP since we both obviously have these kinds of friends and are lucky to, maybe something was up with her or she was tied up and couldn't call? If shes a really good friend and it really bothers you, speak to her about it. Especially if its out of character. Happy Birthday!

Yes, you two sound perfect for each other.

My best friend (since grade school and I'm now in my 40's) and I often exchange happy bdays by text. We are both just crazy busy and know we will catch up soon. That's part of being best friends - knowing the other person thought of you and being secure that even if you don't talk on that special day the other person was still thinking of you.

Oversensitive is an understatement - you sound like a spoiled brat. NEWS FLASH!! people are going to deviate from your wants/expectations from time to time but instead of being a baby and crying about not getting the birthday greeting you feel obligated to how about being grateful that you weren't totally forgotten about altogether.

Geez talk about self-centered. Did it ever occur to you that while you're sitting on your throne awaiting praise and worship from all your loyal subjects that your friend may be going thru some tough times right now - stressed out or overwhelmed or going through a rough spell, etc. Of course it didn't occur to you cause all that matters is you didn't get the birthday wish you wanted - "Boo hoo woe is me."

Gimmie a break.

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you considered that maybe something was going on with her that day? Maybe she's dealing with things you're not aware of yet. Maybe she had a crazy day and knew she wouldn't be able to call so she sent a text. Be a good enough friend to be understanding of her. And be thankful that you have a friend that you value so much.

+1. The world doesn't revolve around you.

The most telling sentence of OP's post was "...I replied "Thank You" and she should have known how upset I was based on that curt response" (paraphrase). You should like a high school girl playing text games with a boy you have a crush on.

I'd be curious to see if you have an Excel spreadsheet that tracks the Happy Birthday wall post metrics that you receive on a given year.

At the end of the day, you should be grateful she thought of you. You never know what kind of circumstances were happening with her day (in a long meeting w/ no time to make a call, family commitment etc.). A good friend should receive the benefit of the doubt, not this petty B.S.

You sound completely self-absorbed. Friends to you seem like nothing more than "people who haven't offended me at a given moment in time."

Glad my friends are above this pettiness.

Anonymous wrote:Good grief OP, get over yourself and move on. You sound exhausting.

I'm exhausted just imagining what it would be like to be OP's friend.

A text would be appreciated. I frankly do not have the time and energy to receive phone calls all day. In fact, my parents send a card and wish me Happy Birthday when they talk to me around that time. If my friends did call, I probably would not answer the phone. LOL!

OP, I would be thankful that a friend remembered my birthday and thought to reach out. You do not know waht was going on that day in her life. It is a shame when someone makes a gesture and people judge and say the gesture was insufficient. At least she thought of you.

I would err on the side of "overly sensitive." Honestly, in my circle, we do a lot of Facebook happy birthdays. For good friends, I will also send a text, and I will make the effort to come out and celebrate their birthday with them. It doesn't really occur to me to call people with birthday wishes - other than my family - because I'm not a phone person at all and it would drive me crazy to have my phone ringing off the hook all day with birthday wishes when I have stuff to do. Texts are easier.

Anonymous wrote:Good grief OP, get over yourself and move on. You sound exhausting.

This. And you sound like you're about 17 years old. Grow up, for pete's sake. No one cares that it was your birthday, except you and your mother.

Anonymous wrote:Good grief OP, get over yourself and move on. You sound exhausting.

+1

Good grief OP, get over yourself and move on. You sound exhausting.

I think you are being way oversensitive, OP.

If someone remembers to wish you a happy birthday, whether it is text, call, Facebook, card, or carrier pigeon, you should be graciously thankful to be thought of and move on with more important things.

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Anonymous wrote:I disagree on my birthday a few months ago got calls from family AND friends...think this is common so if you dont have friends calling you on your birthday, you need to take a look at the kind of friend you are

Oh I'd be happy to tell you what kind of friend I am. I'm the kind who doesn't make a fuss about my birthday and doesn't expect anyone else to either. I don't tell people when it is and I don't get bent out of sorts when friends don't acknowledge it. They call and talk to me other times for fun, not because they feel obligated to.

Do you all make a big fuss about Valentine's Day too?

+100

Anonymous wrote:I disagree on my birthday a few months ago got calls from family AND friends...think this is common so if you dont have friends calling you on your birthday, you need to take a look at the kind of friend you are

Oh I'd be happy to tell you what kind of friend I am. I'm the kind who doesn't make a fuss about my birthday and doesn't expect anyone else to either. I don't tell people when it is and I don't get bent out of sorts when friends don't acknowledge it. They call and talk to me other times for fun, not because they feel obligated to.

Do you all make a big fuss about Valentine's Day too?