Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:pathetic. you could get the same experience from a prostitute. a shared bed is shared intimacy. get counseling.

Different strokes for different folks. Why the hate? We are not hurting you.

Hmmm. Here is the same situation from another perspective. I don't want to be the convenient warm body next to my husband when he gets a boner in his sleep. That's the service a prostitute would provide. I want him to make an effort, desire me, make me have mind blowing orgasms. I want marital sex to be about desire and seduction not just a bodily function.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have my own bedroom on the other side of the house. I LOVE IT !!!

+ 1,000,000

DW here. LOVE IT. And sex has been more frequent, kinkier, hotter, better than ever. OMG.

You realize sudden increase in sex drive is a sign of an affair, right? Google it. Things probably went south sometime after deciding to sleep in seperate bedrooms and DH is bringing the subsequent increased testosterone/sex drive home to you.

For argument's sake let's say you are right. We move to different rooms. DH has now the time to watch porn and text his crush. However, he is bringing his sex drive to me. And so we are doing it like bunnies and that is putting us in great mood. So next day we are actually nicer to each other. This cycle continues. We are getting great sex, we are in better mood, we are also better rested and feel as if we have our own space. And lo and behold - our marriage is hot again.

Maybe in your 20s and 30s - this is a sign of trouble. But in your 40s - this brings a whole level of newness in your marriage. He does not roll over at night and humps you in his sleep, coming in under 15 seconds. He has to get up, sneak into your room, rouse you and seduce you. This is delicious.

Sudden increase in sex drive is not a sign of an affair. Men always have the sex drive. Its the wives that are turning them down. A complete lack of sex drive with wife should be a cause for concern.

sleep apnea is very common and can cause the snoring. it can be fixed with a cpap machine. now i have my husband back in bed with me, wearing a funny cpap mask. but am really happy that he is back, most nights.

The idea of separate bedrooms for spouses doesn't bother me, but the notion of one parent sharing the bed with their child while the other one regularly is absent? This seems creepy and unhealthy for the child and parent.

Just an opinion. I'm sure others will disagree.

Anonymous wrote:are these snoring husbands fat?

that usually contributes in a big way

i'd rather get thin and sleep with my wife than be fat and snore in a room alone

Mine isn't fat at all. He's a skinny guy. And, I always have to kick /shake/nudge or roll him over to make the snoring stop

I want my own bedroom!!! Preferably with my own bathroom and soaking tub!

So jealous. I wish we had an extra bedroom so I could sleep alone once in a while. DH is great, but he snores like a foghorn, and also talks ( sometimes yells) in his sleep. It constantly jars me awake and I never sleep well. Even earplugs don't always help because he is THAT loud. And don't get me started on the farting....

are these snoring husbands fat?

that usually contributes in a big way

i'd rather get thin and sleep with my wife than be fat and snore in a room alone

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have my own bedroom on the other side of the house. I LOVE IT !!!

+ 1,000,000

DW here. LOVE IT. And sex has been more frequent, kinkier, hotter, better than ever. OMG.

You realize sudden increase in sex drive is a sign of an affair, right? Google it. Things probably went south sometime after deciding to sleep in seperate bedrooms and DH is bringing the subsequent increased testosterone/sex drive home to you.

Just accept that not everyone has a super-fragile marriage, where any deviation from the norm will result in infidelity. Yeesh.

My husband snores ridiculously, and I'm a light sleeper. So, while I like the snuggling, I don't like having to roll him over on his side 5 times a night to stop the snoring. Sometimes it is a relief when he falls asleep on the couch.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have my own bedroom on the other side of the house. I LOVE IT !!!

+ 1,000,000

DW here. LOVE IT. And sex has been more frequent, kinkier, hotter, better than ever. OMG.

You realize sudden increase in sex drive is a sign of an affair, right? Google it. Things probably went south sometime after deciding to sleep in seperate bedrooms and DH is bringing the subsequent increased testosterone/sex drive home to you.

This x10

Anonymous wrote:I didn't like sharing a bed until we had a king.

My former roommate and her BF were so co-dependent they shared a twin bed. They both always complained they were tired and sore. Morons.

+1

I didn't like sharing a bed until we had a king.

My former roommate and her BF were so co-dependent they shared a twin bed. They both always complained they were tired and sore. Morons.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have my own bedroom on the other side of the house. I LOVE IT !!!

+ 1,000,000

DW here. LOVE IT. And sex has been more frequent, kinkier, hotter, better than ever. OMG.

You realize sudden increase in sex drive is a sign of an affair, right? Google it. Things probably went south sometime after deciding to sleep in seperate bedrooms and DH is bringing the subsequent increased testosterone/sex drive home to you.

Anonymous wrote:I have my own bedroom on the other side of the house. I LOVE IT !!!

+ 1,000,000

DW here. LOVE IT. And sex has been more frequent, kinkier, hotter, better than ever. OMG.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Isn't moving out of the marital bed the first step before one moves into another's bed? Would you be fine with that occurring? If that scenario occurred would you want to remain married?

Well, I for one would file for divorce the morning immediately following sleeping in separate beds. Even for just one night. I mean, there's really no other logical conclusion, is there? I have to agree with that other very intelligent PP - sleeping in separate beds is exactly the same as visiting a prostitute.