Some au pairs actually want to bust up a marriage and snag the rich husband. I know of two cases, both from Hungary.

Anonymous wrote:It's concerning that your 8 year old is picking up on your insecurities.

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Appropriate for an interview means different things in different cultures. Cleavage is not a big deal in cultures that go topless and don't generally dress as conservatively. It can be a cultural thing rather than meaning that one individual doesn't know how to dress for an interview.

If you don't dress for other jobs, you don't get picked for the other jobs, either.

ITA that you should issue an oversized polo shirt and khakis as a uniform. Some girls push a little.

Though, if it was my house, they would find out eventually that the money is actually ALL MINE - and she can have him, but they would be broke, broke, broke. I would get the houses, the cars, the money - everything! If you think you would get this information out of my too-proud husband, or too-humble me, you can hold your breath, 'cause you won't find out EVER.

As for me, I dress the way *I* like, for me. If the hags in the neighborhood start cackling, or putting on the constipated look, I know I've done it right.

OP, it is BOTH the wife and the DH that are the issue here.
Maybe if you don't mind so much, neither will he. Some men are spiteful - just to have a leg up, so to speak. I don't notice this crap. I have enough on my plate, thank you.

You need to find a balance within yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not invite that trouble into my home. Maybe it's unfair to the really good-looking candidates, but that's just the way it is!

It's not unfair. If Brazilians want to work in the US, they have to learn that we are WAY more uptight about dress and bodies than they are, and they have to match our expectations.

Dumb. It's an au pair program, not an SES position at a federal agency.

We had au pairs from several different countries when our kids were younger. They all worked out fine, and most were far more mature than Americans of a similar age, although I'd say the au pairs we had from France were the least dependable.

Not dumb. OP didn't hire her because her dress made OP uncomfortable. It would make a lot of parents uncomfortable. You dress for the job or you don't get the job.

An au pair doesn't need to dress in a suit, but she should be reasonably covered while at work or in her application video.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not invite that trouble into my home. Maybe it's unfair to the really good-looking candidates, but that's just the way it is!

It's not unfair. If Brazilians want to work in the US, they have to learn that we are WAY more uptight about dress and bodies than they are, and they have to match our expectations.

Dumb. It's an au pair program, not an SES position at a federal agency.

We had au pairs from several different countries when our kids were younger. They all worked out fine, and most were far more mature than Americans of a similar age, although I'd say the au pairs we had from France were the least dependable.

Anonymous wrote:Op dont be such a nutcracker. If youre that concerned about him being attracted to the au pair you probably shouldnt be married to him.

Or you shouldn't be hiring an au pair. You really can't go into it thinking an au pair is slutty or unprofessional because she dresses a certain way, or that your DH will be a total horndog if there's a younger woman under your roof. A Brazilian girl might dress in a manner you consider provocative and turn out to be morally conservative.

Anonymous wrote:I would not invite that trouble into my home. Maybe it's unfair to the really good-looking candidates, but that's just the way it is!

It's not unfair. If Brazilians want to work in the US, they have to learn that we are WAY more uptight about dress and bodies than they are, and they have to match our expectations.

The outfit was inappropriate. I covered myself up when working.I may have dressed similarly to a nightclub.
I never thought of doing my host father.He was not old nor ugly, but why would I?
I'm in US with plenty of men around and I go with him?! He glad his wife was sleeping with him!
Move on to the next application! Get one who is at least 21 and gets out of the house on the weekends!
I'd go for an Au Pair from colder climates.

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Anonymous wrote:What 8 year says that shit?

I'm sorry, but that and your weird hostility make this unbelievable.

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Not OP but my 8 yo DD has a good idea of what's appropriate to wear. They talk about it in school. And, she knows why Miley Cyrus is no longer watchable.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting how it's assumed these girls even want anything to do with your old ass husband. And the perpetual naivety with regards to keeping your men away from the good looking women never ceases to amaze me. Typically the men aren't cheating with the knockouts.

Depends. If they get into "nesting mode" where they think they want a husband, the husband can start looking good, ESPECIALLY if the wife isn't even trying and the au pair sees it and the husband is nice/kind to the au pair.

The catch of course is that she enters "nesting mode" as opposed to "party mode" where she is watching the clock until 8pm or whenever she can head down to DC with friends and party it up. Most au pairs are in "party mode."

Nice house, good with kids, she probably sees the wife at less than her best ... plus let's face it, OP won't exactly feel 100% secure with some 22-year-old running around the house. OTOH, most au pairs are like that.

Anonymous wrote:What 8 year says that shit?

I'm sorry, but that and your weird hostility make this unbelievable.

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Why is your daughter reviewing these videos?