Nursing homes are disgusting. If I ever have to go to a nursing home, I want to go to the best one available.... not one with a heavy medicaid population and incompetent staff. What is the point of saving lots of money just to live in a dump when I'm old?

Anonymous wrote:Just wanted to correct a misperception out there. There aren't "medicaid" nursing homes and "private pay" nursing homes, by and large. There are nursing homes that do or do not accept the medicaid daily rate as their full daily charge. There are also nursing homes that will set aside a certain number of beds where they will take the medicaid rate, but most beds are a higher rate. It sounded like some people believe there are government run "medicaid nursing homes." There are not.

PP with a father in a nursing home and is on Medicaid. This is exactly right. Medicaid does not run the homes. That said the ones that do accept Medicaid sadly aren't a nice place to end up.

My mom has over 2 million and a pension. I would rather she be comfortable and live her life until the end rather than kill her off now and take the money for myself. If she had no money I would offer to pay for it or bring her to my house.

Just wanted to correct a misperception out there. There aren't "medicaid" nursing homes and "private pay" nursing homes, by and large. There are nursing homes that do or do not accept the medicaid daily rate as their full daily charge. There are also nursing homes that will set aside a certain number of beds where they will take the medicaid rate, but most beds are a higher rate. It sounded like some people believe there are government run "medicaid nursing homes." There are not.

My mom said she saved enough, but if she had some money in the end...and I wanted it...she would live with me, and I would take care of her.

IRS has a three year look back.

Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll

I promise you that it isn't. This is the normal "American" way of thinking (I'm an American, and proud of it, but...). ME, me, me, me, me. I want special treatment but I want others to obey the letter and spirit of the law.

These systems only work if everyone does the right thing. It doesn't happen.

This has to be a troll

Haven't read this whole thread but OP my father is in a nursing home on Medicaid. Why on Earth would you want to do that. And having just gone through the whole Medicaid process they will turn over absolutely every single stone big or small to find out where her money has gone. We were told that if they found that we had been "gifted" money that could have gone to his care we would be prosecuted for fraud. Trust me when I tell you they look at EVERYTHING. They are fully aware when a family tries to hide money. Also you have to have their entire estate down to less than $2,500 in order to even get Medicaid. Cannot figure out why you should live high on the horse while your mom is warehoused in a nursing home. So good luck with that OP.

So much for the theory that only poor people are getting hand outs from the government....

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Anonymous wrote:This is completely morally wrong and feels illegal.

OP is no better than those trying to steal money from the elderly.

I agree that this is like stealing money from all of us taxpayers...but not that different from public sector employees who work 20-30 years and then draw a guaranteed pension for the next 30 to 50 years while, often, getting into second careers and revenue sources.

TOTALLY, absolutely different. My dad gave up a lucrative career in the private sector (lawyer) to work for the federal government for 1/4 the wages. He earned every penny of his pension over the last 32 years. Plus, this is totally above-board and not trying to "game the system" (aka: steal). Unless the worker is breaking a rule, they're doing nothing wrong. Distributing assets to qualify as "poor" is totally different.

Anonymous wrote:This is completely morally wrong and feels illegal.

OP is no better than those trying to steal money from the elderly.

I agree that this is like stealing money from all of us taxpayers...but not that different from public sector employees who work 20-30 years and then draw a guaranteed pension for the next 30 to 50 years while, often, getting into second careers and revenue sources.

This is completely morally wrong and feels illegal.

OP is no better than those trying to steal money from the elderly.

Anonymous wrote:Np here. I agree with all the criticism to OP. but I am wondering- what if she sold the properties to them at ridiculously low prices? Not advocating it. Just wondering..

Same consequence as giving away your money. It makes you ineligible for a period of time. As an aside, having worked for years in admissions and discharge planning for nursing homes and being married to a nursing home administrator, I can tell you this. There is nothing free. If you don't pay or have a payor source, you aren't getting in. And, if you get in and then refuse to pay, you'll be sued.

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Anonymous wrote:I am glad to hear there are some nice ones - many are not. However, even if it looks nice - I wonder if your relative gets all the services someone at a private pay place would get - does he get as much PT or OT? Is there good transportation to take him out into the community? How much variety is there in food? What is the staff to resident ratio? ETC.

The truly destitute elderly deserve a nice place to call their final home at society's expense, but not folks whose children want their money.

A nursing home is different than a assisted living facility. There are not "transportations" to anywhere int he community from a nursing home, unless it is to the hospital.

This isn't necessarily true.