Anonymous wrote:Totally baby him about this. And when you are next out of commission, expect the same!

The thing is, I am pretty sure he will only remember how I wasn't ideal about babying him, and will justify his own unwillingness to help me should I need help.

Anonymous wrote:H just broke his ankle, is in cast and on crutches.
It does look pretty bad and I do feel sorry for him, but he is lazy and likes to feel sorry fir himself, so he is already starting to act like he is dying and can only sit on the couch, asking me to bring him all kinds of things, trying to avoid any childcare that involves minimum effort (like fixing a simple meal, etc)- basically he makes it look like he can only play a little with the kid.
How true is that? And how well can he take care of himself? Is he capable of fixing a simple meal for us as a family or at least for himself?
Thanks.

Jesus. You sound like a cunt.

OP here- I don't want to go into detail on what he did in the course of our marriage, I will just say that he did a lot to kill my sympathy for him.
I don't want to go into detail but this time he did a recreational activity which is high risk, he wasn't sufficiently qualified for the level he tried to do it at.
Of course I won't leave him before he is recovered but this situation made me really question his judgement.

Totally baby him about this. And when you are next out of commission, expect the same!

I want to know what stupid thing he did that you warned against that resulted in the broken ankle

Once he can get around steadily by himself, you can begin to leave him but just realize that if he falls full weight on that ankle during the recovery progress - you could wind up at square one again, he might not heal properly leading to permanent problems for him...

If he's in fairly decent shape, steady on his crutches - you probably won't have to be at his side 24/7 or anything but I would stick close by for the first week. I've BTDT with my spouse and at his various doctor's appts I noticed that most of the folks on crutches were getting around o.k. and once they could transition to the boot - some of them were even pretty darned fast.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, wow, this IS the reality check I needed!
PPs are right, I have never broken a bone (knock on wood), so I just truly don't know.
Plus, with every minor cold my H acts like he can't be bothered to do anything, he is in major pain, needs hot tea served to him in front if the tv, etc etc.
plus he broke it purely out of stupidity, I asked him not to do what he did but if course he never listened

he is not on painkillers luckily
yes he broke it two days ago. I will cut him slack this week. But he can certainly be home alone for like 2-4 hours, right?

You really don't like him very much, do you?

Anonymous wrote:Right ankle. Yes, I am becoming his driver, too. - OP

As so many have pointed out, you are a ball of sympathy.

You can't carry much more than a plastic bag (wrapped around the handle) on crutches, either. That's what I remember most about being in his, er, shoe, 25 years ago.

Something tells me he will be very happy when you decide to leave him. I can't imagine being married to someone as insufferable as you. Yikes.

Wow, your DH broke his ankle and your primary concern is that he is a malingerer. Y'all must have a loving relationship. LOL!!

Right ankle. Yes, I am becoming his driver, too. - OP

Did he break his right ankle or left? I broke my right and couldn't drive until week 9.

Give him a BJ while he's on the couch. Will make you both feel better. You need to relax, OP.

Anonymous wrote:OP here, wow, this IS the reality check I needed!
PPs are right, I have never broken a bone (knock on wood), so I just truly don't know.
Plus, with every minor cold my H acts like he can't be bothered to do anything, he is in major pain, needs hot tea served to him in front if the tv, etc etc.
plus he broke it purely out of stupidity, I asked him not to do what he did but if course he never listened

he is not on painkillers luckily
yes he broke it two days ago. I will cut him slack this week. But he can certainly be home alone for like 2-4 hours, right?

Given how entirely off base you were about this, it is probably time for you to revisit whether you were in fact being an uncaring asshole the other times he got sick as well.