Anonymous wrote:We were supposed to host, and I had an elaborate home-cooked menu planned out. On Friday morning a migraine hits me, and wouldn't you know, I spend the next 3 days trembling, sweating and coughing in bed, only getting up to: pee, vomit, or get more water.
MIL comes down to check up on us, and by the end of the visit, she's not feeling so hot either. Long story short, she goes to the ER on her way home (!) and she has pneumonia. I don't think I gave her the pneumonia, but she had been recovering from a nasty cold herself.
Upshot is, MIL is probably going to need all week and maybe more to recuperate, and SIL is pregnant so she is going to give us a wide berth--despite having made plans to fly in with her family. My own mom is elderly herself so that's a nogo. I either have the flu or an extremely virulent cold strain, and I am just today getting on my feet after popping 4 prescriptions.
So my grand vision just exploded right before my very eyes--all due to me. All I have is a frozen turkey in the fridge and 2 huge bags of cranberries--I had barely gotten started on the shopping.
DH says he's tired of hosting year after year, why doesn't his mom host for fuck's sakes like a proper matriarch, but I know why, she can't cook, and hey, who doesn't want a party thrown without putting in any of the effort? She said that if she felt "inspired" she will bring a pie. I didn't care, I just wanted to cook and feed people.
If SIL wasn't pregnant Thanksgiving would still be a go-ahead, but with sickness all around, it doesn't look like it's happening this year.
What a disaster.
You are too dramatic! You ruined nothing. People get sick. If you did not have pnuemonia you did not give it to anyone.