Add one more to the pile here. The fact that he yelled at you in public and then pouted tells you what your private life will be like, except it will be about 100x worse and eventually physical. Get out now while it's easy!

Run!

RUN. RUN. RUN!!!

Do not even answer any of his calls.

You will be yelled again. Why go there?

Anonymous wrote:I've been dating a fellow for a couple of months. Last week he yelled at a waiter and got easily frustrated over a failure to get his order exactly right. When I tried to calm him down, he yelled at me too. And was petulant all evening. I left a 25% tip to the poor waiter. I went home instead of staying the night as I usually do. Is this a deal breaker? He is 39, never been married. I'm a 31 year old divorcee.

Yes. Complete and utter deal breaker. Find someone else who isn't a total loser.

-- DH.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ceo? Trial lawyer?

YeS! Powerful LaWyer Type

no, just a loser. definitely not a powerful lawyer. I work among them, even the mean ones are smart enough not to behave like that on a date.

Anonymous wrote:Ceo? Trial lawyer?

YeS! Powerful LaWyer Type

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might forgive getting cranky at a waiter if it was an anomaly (and a true screw up) and everything else was great, and he apologized for it. But the yelling at you and pouting?? No way.

this is what I was going to say. To answer your question flat out - would being rude to a waiter be a deal breaker? My answer would be no, because everyone has bad days and has snapped (or been rude) to someone during a bad day/time in their life. But the fact that he yelled at you and was awful the whole night? dealbreaker.

Add my voice to the unanimous choir. DTMF.

Deal breaker. There are no good reasons. None. He will treat you this way ALL the time - hell, he already started.

Run in the other direction. Seriously.

Anonymous wrote:A new date is typically going to be on his/her best behavior for a couple of months. If this is how he behaves right off the bat, what's in store later? People eventually will treat you as well or as badly as they treat others, so it's always important to pay attention to how they treat people that "don't matter."

Definite dealbreaker.

This!!!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I might forgive getting cranky at a waiter if it was an anomaly (and a true screw up) and everything else was great, and he apologized for it. But the yelling at you and pouting?? No way.

+1. Sometimes, it's the waiters that are rude.

Well, clearly wasn't one of those times...

Yes, run away.

yup, deal breaker.

Hell yes, run.

I think it is a deal breaker because I have seen it. Turns out the guy really felt bad about himself, and was taking it out on innocent strangers. I know this happens a lot around here, but you don't have to be the source of the PROBLEM. Really. Don't people like this understand that they are the problem?

There is no reason for a sane person to snap at someone they hardly know. I think people should know this, and the common reason behind it.

You don't have to strike up a conversation with a stranger in the service profession (that would be weird), but really, anyone who snaps at them for little or no reason is an a&&hole with issues and lack of coping skills.

He should not have dragged you into it. It was his battle, he created it; which he should not have. You want to be with someone who is even keeled and knows when to say when.

I see this every day and it is baffling how grown adults act like children when they don't get their way. Actually, its sad. Run OP, he is not your problem.