Anonymous
11/23/2013 22:15
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:
You're right... I moved in with my new husband when Gabe was 8 and tried to make it work a few times and it didn't go well so Gabe went to live with his father for a bit then come back a few more times before we decided he's better to stay with his father.
You should have left your new husband, and stuck with your son. A kid can't have one parent he can't "coexist" with!
You picked your new husband over your son. Please own that. Gabe isn't manipulating people. You never put him first. He is now treating others the way you treated him. Why should he give a damn about this woman and her kids? No one picked him first. He was shoved and shunted around and expected to just suck it up and deal. New kids moving into the house, not just once, but TWICE (your house, then dads house) and he was just expected to deal with it.
He's acting immature? He's acting like a 16 year old that no one ever put first. Bribery with cash to get along with dad's girlfriend is NOT showing love and caring, BTW. Neither is shuffling a kid off to dads house, not because kid wants to go there, but because you have a new husband and kids and they just can't co-exist with your own child.
I don't know what you can do in this situation. I agree it is terrible.
Vanilla
11/23/2013 21:09
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Why would you write the name of your son on this forum?
Anonymous
11/23/2013 20:34
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
I think this horrible OP may not be a troll, if only because she has so much difficulty with grammar I can't imagine someone writing her posts for fun. Every sentence looks like a struggle here.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 19:56
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
^ The OP could be the freeloading girlfriend or the mom who abandoned him at 8.
The kid has a guardian - his dad's friend, the only adult on his side. His mom and his dead father's gf both sound like selfish bitches.
The kid has a guardian - his dad's friend, the only adult on his side. His mom and his dead father's gf both sound like selfish bitches.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 19:02
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
One minute, the OP sounds like she is on Gabe's side. The next minute she sounds like she is on the girlfriend's side.
Either OP is not the mother, or she is a troll spinning a crazy tale.
Fact is, if she were the mother, she would have custody of him. A 16 year old can't buy and sell property or enter such contracts without a guardian. If he isn't emancipated, his mother is in charge. Oh, and once he is 18, he doesn't need to be emancipated.
Either OP is not the mother, or she is a troll spinning a crazy tale.
Fact is, if she were the mother, she would have custody of him. A 16 year old can't buy and sell property or enter such contracts without a guardian. If he isn't emancipated, his mother is in charge. Oh, and once he is 18, he doesn't need to be emancipated.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 18:56
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
You are terrible OP. You want Gabe to live with this woman and her kids so he doesn't have to move back in with you an your new family. You have some major problems. Instead of fighting for this woman you need to fight for your son.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 18:26
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Gabe should invite the girlfriend into the bedroom he inherited and enjoy all the benefits of being the man of the house.
She was paying the rent before by putting out. She's practiced and talented. Why stop now?
You are funny, but terrible.
But makes a point. That gf is currently living off a 16 yr old boy who lost his father and a mother like OP. Freeloader is putting it nicely.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 18:17
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:Gabe should invite the girlfriend into the bedroom he inherited and enjoy all the benefits of being the man of the house.
She was paying the rent before by putting out. She's practiced and talented. Why stop now?
You are funny, but terrible.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 18:14
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:He have tried to use his position to force his father's girlfriend to give him things back. He have even gone as far as get rid of all television and video game systems that isn't in someone bedroom simply because he don't like or watch television. Now no one but Gabe want to be in the living room.
He also almost immediately sold two of his father's own cars for low price without even talking to his father's girlfriend about it.
Why would Gabe made his father's girlfriend give up the master bedroom so he can move in?
Gabe have done many things that just make it seems like he's manipulating to get things his way and not being mature about anything.
Kicking someone out of the house is just horrible. Yet Gabe doesn't even care even when this woman was crying in front of him. He doesn't even care about those kids and whenever the questions about the kids are brought up, he just brush it off and say they're not his problem.
I don't like the idea of him being out on his own. He's still only sixteen.
I know he want to sell the house and buy a small condo to move in to reduce the burden of owning a place. But I'm afraid about letting him doing this. I feel he still have a lot of growing up to do.
My step son is Gabe's age and mature, but I could never imagine him being on his own.
You don't seem to get that this woman and her children are not his responsibility. He is a 16 year boy. Honestly this is one of the craziest situations I have read on DCUM, and sadly it seems to be true. I do not understand at all who you think he is manipulating. Do you expect him to go out and get a job to support his dead father's girlfriend and children forever? You make no sense! If you are so worried about the girlfriend and her children, why don't you support them? They could move in, or you could rent them an apartment.
If you feel he is truly not mature enough to be out on his own, then boarding school is the answer.
BTW, where are you from? I can only assume that some of your mindset and disconnect is cultural.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 18:03
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:Gabe should invite the girlfriend into the bedroom he inherited and enjoy all the benefits of being the man of the house.
She was paying the rent before by putting out. She's practiced and talented. Why stop now?
She was his dad's gf so she's old enough to be his mother. Give the old hag and her three kids the boot. Why are they still there? Let the old moocher pay rent for a place to live like every other adult. He can find someone younger, prettier...
Anonymous
11/23/2013 17:47
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Gabe should invite the girlfriend into the bedroom he inherited and enjoy all the benefits of being the man of the house.
She was paying the rent before by putting out. She's practiced and talented. Why stop now?
She was paying the rent before by putting out. She's practiced and talented. Why stop now?
Anonymous
11/23/2013 15:39
Subject: Re:Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
It is a bit hard to follow, and it is a long twisted story. A few things do stick out. You do not like him, and you have an new baby, so living with you will not work. He is 16, still a child, but legally very close to becoming emancipated whether you agree or not.
It seems that this kid has been a second class citizen in his homes. It is not his job to provide childcare and set an example for his lawyer's girlfriend. In fact, after that, the best thing you could do is find another lawyer to handle his money. He is angry, rebellious, and sad, and no one is there for "him" They seem to view him as a pawn in their games. Best thing for him would be some kind of apartment rental until he finished high school. Condos are famously easy to buy and hard to sell. He does not need that responsibility along with everything else.
I know he is annoying you, but try to find some compassion.
It seems that this kid has been a second class citizen in his homes. It is not his job to provide childcare and set an example for his lawyer's girlfriend. In fact, after that, the best thing you could do is find another lawyer to handle his money. He is angry, rebellious, and sad, and no one is there for "him" They seem to view him as a pawn in their games. Best thing for him would be some kind of apartment rental until he finished high school. Condos are famously easy to buy and hard to sell. He does not need that responsibility along with everything else.
I know he is annoying you, but try to find some compassion.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 14:02
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
OP - you need to be a parent.
Also - you say his social skills are fine but that he doesn't have any friends. Those two things don't jive. Is there a possibility he has Asberger's?
Also - you say his social skills are fine but that he doesn't have any friends. Those two things don't jive. Is there a possibility he has Asberger's?
Anonymous
11/23/2013 12:56
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
OP wants her son to live with her ex husband's girlfriend and her kids so he has adult supervision and he doesn't have to come live with her and her family. OP sounds like " mother of the year." Not!
Leave him alone, OP. Sounds like he has a guardian looking out for his best interests, not yours.
Leave him alone, OP. Sounds like he has a guardian looking out for his best interests, not yours.
Anonymous
11/23/2013 12:44
Subject: Got myself stuck in a terrible situation
Anonymous wrote:OP seems to put everyone else ahead of her son including her ex's girlfriend and her kids. Why should Gabe not evict them? He has no ties to her and apparently doesn't even get along with her or her kids.
No wonder he doesn't listen to a mother who chose a new husband and family when he was eight yrs old. Gabe sounds perfectly reasonable and sane more than OP certainly.
+1,000!!!
Jesus, OP why the hell should he have to let some woman and her kids live with him? WTF??
I think you should leave the kid the hell alone, you've already screwed him up enough and you have lousy priorities.