Anonymous wrote:OP, I agree with the PPs -- keep doing what you're doing and stay out of the discussion between MIL and DH. Let DH handle it (and FWIW, you are 100% right to get her off the account, and PPs who say "just get a new account" don't understand what a headache that can be when you have been using that account for business purposes).
For now, pick a stock reply: "MIL, this is between you and DH. I'm not getting involved." Lather, rinse, repeat. Keep track of how many times you say it. If you say it more than 5 times a day, you get a mani-pedi.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:WTF. You guys can't open another account? Your major living expenses are paid for by an account your DH's mom funded when he was a minor? That's pathetic. Either set up a separate account for the earnings you both have now … or live with the fact that it is HIS AND HIS MOM'S MONEY - you are sucking at the MIL teat in that case - grow up and accept it.
No, we have more than one account. This particular account, however, has many drafts coming out/money coming in from a business. It's a large headache to move all of it to another account. Again, why does it matter if she's on it-- it's her name on it. She doesn't have a card linked to it (that she uses but I understand she *can* have one) and she doesn't check statements nor does she frequent the bank. Why should she stay on it?
Anonymous wrote:Am I only one who is suspicious of husband for suggesting that they use this account in the first place? It takes about five minutes to open up a new bank account. Why did he suggest this to begin with?
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:And because OP can't explain why they can't open a bank account coherently, she changes things up and says this post is all about her MIL disrespecting her -- how should she deal with it? But the fact is that MIL is actually behaving reasonably in this case (who knows about other cases) … so it's pretty hard to give advice other than OPEN YOUR OWN ACCOUNT.
You must be one of the 15 or so people to comment but not read the replies. I never said we couldn't open an account. I said we could but that it's a lot of work. Good try though!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Don't permit her to yell at you. Hang up if she does.
Someone who reads! Thank you for advice and answering my question!