Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Have him write a note or draw a picture with an apology to the kid he bit.
It's not a punishment. It's an apology for hurting someone.
(DC was bitten by a classmate in kindergarten and we all appreciated the handwritten note to say sorry.)[/quote
fwiw, my daughter is in K and one of the boys in class got in trouble for something he did to her -- the next day, he brought in a "I'm sorry" note with 2 pieces of candy. It went a long way with my daughter, and after that, she's said that they're friends.
I don't think it's too early for an apology like that.
Same here. My DD(4) had two boys teasing her in school, a 4 and 5yo. When the school and their parents found out, they were disciplined and both boys apologized to her the next day. The following day, the 4yo brought her a sticker. DD was in such a good mood after that. They now all play together.
Anonymous wrote:Truthfully as a kid I was MUCH more scared of being in trouble at home than at school. I would lose dessert/TV privileges/outside play privileges, get yelled at or if I was truly bad a spanking.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:If he is disciplined at school, he is usually not disciplined at home. The school recommends this -- home should be a place he's safe and comfortable, and not one where he's getting in trouble for things he's already been punished for. We do discuss the incident and what he could have done differently. Exceptions are made, and he'll lose screen time, when he does really bad things like pulling the fire alarm, attacking a teacher, or running away from school.
Wow. Attacking a teacher and running away from school? And the kid then 'loses screen time'? I'd say you need to come up with more serious consequences.
Anonymous wrote:If he is disciplined at school, he is usually not disciplined at home. The school recommends this -- home should be a place he's safe and comfortable, and not one where he's getting in trouble for things he's already been punished for. We do discuss the incident and what he could have done differently. Exceptions are made, and he'll lose screen time, when he does really bad things like pulling the fire alarm, attacking a teacher, or running away from school.
Anonymous wrote:There would definitely be consequences at my house for that behavior. Mine would lose screen time privileges during the weekend. If the teacher called you, it was bad. Teachers do not call for every little thing.
Anonymous wrote:At what age do "future" punishments become effective? DD just turned 3, and I am pretty sure saying "no Dora tonight" or "no party on Saturday" would be meaningless to her. But it sounds like at five, that kind of thing is effective.