Anonymous wrote:I strive to be crunchy and have crunchy friends. Crunchy means you eschew all things artificial and live life in harmony with nature. you leave a minimal footprint. You value life and respect all things living. You respect and appreciate nature and how she designed things to be. Artificially changing your body for the sake of appearance is not consistent with crunchy.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:All valid points but the OP didn't ask for opinions from people who didn't walk the walk. The only legit answer so far is from 13:12. The others are just judging using their own set of values OP so take it with a grain.
I disagree. OP clearly stated that this desire is contrary to values she holds (or has held til recently). She brought the values issue up herself. Others are responding to that. If she had left out all the stuff about her values and just said "I'm fit and healthy and hate my breasts, anyone have a similar experience and if so did you get implants and if so any regrets?" then your point would be valid. That's not what she said.
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I'm someone who is probably along the lines you mention -- not through and through crunchy but on that end of the spectrum for sure, and I have breast implants. I got them before I had children because my breasts were so small and slightly saggy (from having previously gotten implants at age 21 and then having them removed at 24 because they were too large for my body type) that I knew that pregnancy and BFing would leave me with two flaps of skin and it would be very difficult for me to feel sexually desirable. My DH did not support my decision at all, said he loved me the way I was, and I believe that he was sincere. I do not dress provocatively and never did, so it was really just for me to feel confident about myself. I was wearing cutlets all the time by that point so I was like, what's the difference if they're on the inside or outside except that I'll feel more attractive in bed if they're on the inside. Is there something wrong in my brain that I can't feel good about myself unless I fit a certain set of criteria in my physical appearance? Yeah, and I'll be the first to admit it. But it was much easier to fix my body than my mind. I also had a nose job FWIW because I hated my nose (at age 25, just a few months after the implant removal).
Despite being crunchy-ish in a lot of ways, I don't have any objection to cosmetic surgery. There is a lot of pressure on women to be attractive and I don't think surgery, up to a point, is an unreasonable response to it. You have to do what is going to make YOU happy and feel good about yourself. Who cares what anyone else thinks? I do feel sorry for women (I know several) whose husbands really want them to get implants (or whatever). It should be about what makes you feel better when you look in the mirror and helps you be confident and satisfied with your appearance. No one else should influence the decision.
I will also say that I am relieved that I have all boys. I wouldn't want to set that example for a girl. That may seem contradictory to what I said above, but I guess I just feel like, well, my brain is already fucked up and there's nothing I can do about that, but a daughter would be (at least theoretically) a clean slate and I wouldn't want to contribute to the beauty madness that she would be subjected to outside the family anyway. My boys obviously don't know and are unlikely to find out but a girl undoubtedly would.
Honestly, this is a terribly sad statement. What an indictment of our culture.
Anonymous wrote:I'm someone who is probably along the lines you mention -- not through and through crunchy but on that end of the spectrum for sure, and I have breast implants. I got them before I had children because my breasts were so small and slightly saggy (from having previously gotten implants at age 21 and then having them removed at 24 because they were too large for my body type) that I knew that pregnancy and BFing would leave me with two flaps of skin and it would be very difficult for me to feel sexually desirable. My DH did not support my decision at all, said he loved me the way I was, and I believe that he was sincere. I do not dress provocatively and never did, so it was really just for me to feel confident about myself. I was wearing cutlets all the time by that point so I was like, what's the difference if they're on the inside or outside except that I'll feel more attractive in bed if they're on the inside. Is there something wrong in my brain that I can't feel good about myself unless I fit a certain set of criteria in my physical appearance? Yeah, and I'll be the first to admit it. But it was much easier to fix my body than my mind. I also had a nose job FWIW because I hated my nose (at age 25, just a few months after the implant removal).
Despite being crunchy-ish in a lot of ways, I don't have any objection to cosmetic surgery. There is a lot of pressure on women to be attractive and I don't think surgery, up to a point, is an unreasonable response to it. You have to do what is going to make YOU happy and feel good about yourself. Who cares what anyone else thinks? I do feel sorry for women (I know several) whose husbands really want them to get implants (or whatever). It should be about what makes you feel better when you look in the mirror and helps you be confident and satisfied with your appearance. No one else should influence the decision.
I will also say that I am relieved that I have all boys. I wouldn't want to set that example for a girl. That may seem contradictory to what I said above, but I guess I just feel like, well, my brain is already fucked up and there's nothing I can do about that, but a daughter would be (at least theoretically) a clean slate and I wouldn't want to contribute to the beauty madness that she would be subjected to outside the family anyway. My boys obviously don't know and are unlikely to find out but a girl undoubtedly would.
Anonymous wrote:All valid points but the OP didn't ask for opinions from people who didn't walk the walk. The only legit answer so far is from 13:12. The others are just judging using their own set of values OP so take it with a grain.