Anonymous wrote:Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

Be careful, children tend to treat their parents the way they have seen their parents treat their grandparents. You reap what you sow.

Anonymous wrote:Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

wow, you must have younger parents. Mine were born in 1929 and 1931.

This is something to complain about? My MIL lived 40 minutes away. I am down to seeing her 2 to 3 times per year. That is plenty. If my husband wants to see her more often, he is welcome to do so.

OP: Can you tell me something good that the in-laws do? You sound like a half empty kind of gal.

PP, I think by the way you wrote your post you're trying to be funny. You're neither funny nor correct. Venting is important for everyone, especially on anonymous online formums. People like you just like to be nasty when you can. And honestly, I don't think anyone cares whether you think they are nice or not. Sorry.

And again- setting bounderies is the key to a healthy, happy life. If people have expressed no interest in forming a equal relationship, move on. No need for one to force a relationship when one isn't wanted. Your kids won't know or care if their grandparents don't have a relationship with them.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

From your two posts I have a hard time believing this.

Everyone deserves an opportunity to vent, especially given the circumstances above. Nice people have their limits too.

Really? Sure, you can vent, but when someone calls you out for your behavior, well, them's the breaks.

I think that if someone ignores their grandkids they will get what is coming- grandkids who don't care or know them at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

From your two posts I have a hard time believing this.

Everyone deserves an opportunity to vent, especially given the circumstances above. Nice people have their limits too.

Anonymous wrote:Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

From your two posts I have a hard time believing this.

Pp again- since my parents and ILs don't visit, call, or Skype much (emails almost every day- like my toddlers understand that!), I plan on doing the Exact Same Thing to them when they are old and infirm.

Right now they have enough energy to run marathons, go on kayak races, and hike every day. But travelling to see my kids is too much. Bullshit!

So I am sweet, pleasant, and kind, but I'm not going to do one thing for them when they are old. And since my kids don't know them much, I'm sure they won't either.

Enjoy being old and alone Boomers!!

Boomers are super selfish. Just take a look at some of the responses you've gotten OP. Neither my parents nor my IL bother to visit much, but always demand we visit them. I'm sorry, but it's so much easier for two adults in their 50s/60s to visit dc than it is for 2 adults (one pregnant) and 2 toddlers to visit the west coast.

You have every right to be angry. Those telling you otherwise don't remember or know what it's like to be across the country with no family nearby. I wonder what these people will say when your parents or inlaws are older and you don't visit them and put them in a nursing home? I am pretty sure everyone will vilify you and your family. Grandparents have an obligation to build a relationship with their grandchildren.

Again, boomers are the most selfish generation.

Don't try to force it. I wish my kids had better relationships with their grandparents, but if this is all they can give then it's their loss. Our door is open, but we're not going to beg or try to change them.

Wow. Just wow. They have their own lives. They only way you can be justified complaining is if they guilt you about not seeing the kids.
Really, they are not obligated to visit.

I have figured out that if I want my children to have a relationship with their grandarents, we have to be the ones that go to them. We have to initial the skype, visits, phones calls..........

It sucks leaving Friday afternooon and driving north on 95 or south on 95 to have a rare weekend with them. But it is the only way.

They skype every month or two? Wow, wish my FIL would do that.